Can you change a person? If so, at what age is it too late?

Question

I keep wishing this person will get it right but yet he/she is always getting it wrong. Should I stop looking for the good in this person

Answer 1

stop looking for the good,i used to that. now i just expect the good should be right there and not me looking for it

Answer 2

Everyone is right, a person can't change another person. I've been in your situation, but on the other side. Only the person will determine if they want to change, but who knows when that may be. I'm a different and better person today than I was. Some day, that person will realize what they've lost and regret that they didn't change sooner, maybe he/she will realize that in your case, but then it will be too late. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Let me tell you something honey and this is based on personal experience... He will never change there are some who do change but they have to want to change, they have to want to do it, "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink" well its the same in this situstion, you will be waiting a life time and that person is NOT gonna change... i've waited nine years for my b/f to change we have a son, and another on the way, and you think i would have smartened up by now, but hoping and thinking he will change is all that it is, hoping and thinking it doesn't happen... So don't screw up and wait till you have 2 kids with someone before waking up and realizing "WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING WITH THIS USELESS PERSON IN MY LIFE" Trust me before its too late, move on, and don't waste your time, if this person truly loves you to, then they will realize what they are missing when you leave and maybe they will change for you eventually, but dont wait around, don't waste your life, moveo on trust me, you'll be thankful for it!! Good Luck!!

Answer 4

No... you can never change a person. Only the person can look to change their behavior to adjust to your likes or dislikes.

By the time a person leaves their parent's home; they're pretty much set in their lifestyle, but they are going to grow and adjust to whatever goals, education, finances, surroundings, etc.

If they made this uncomfortable 'change' after they've met you, your opinion and concern should have some weight if they value your friendship.

But IF they had the lifestyle you're wanting to change before they met you... and being around you is worth it to them, in time they may make some adjustments. Ordinarily, they'd claim you have no right to ask them to make such a change.

Answer 5

There is not much to go by with your question, this matters because there are some things in which some people can change and some that are just to set into their character. I think, people can change at different ages, depends on what we are talking about, and there are others that will not change, that's what makes them.

Answer 6

People can change but only when they want to. And even then it takes years and years to change. Yes, you should stop looking. They know they are getting it wrong and dont care enough to fix it. Your just waisting your time because YOU cant change another person.

Answer 7

U can not change a person. They have to want to change first before anyone can help them. People have to want things in order to make a difference. For whatever reason u want them to change, they may not see this as a problem. Change comes from within.

Answer 8

Women don't usually change too much, but men are really trainable untill old age. It only took me 2 years to house break my husband, and he hasn't had an accident in the house for years. lol It took alot of years to get him where I wanted him, but all the hard work paid off. He went from a beer guzzling party boy, to a college graduate, perfect husband, and father, not to mention an animal in bed.....Man am I glad I invested the time!

Answer 9

,you can never change a person's character
it is a waste of time to try.

To make life livable ;
you can make your differences, into positive good
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So they are pleased to be with you, when you are happier

you can persevere with family traditions ,
and make this, something for both of you.to do together ( decking the Christmas tree , working out a guest list for a party , cooking for each other !)

you can try your best, to please your partner.
but it is so hard ,if you really can't stand each others personality .

your should not have to make all the moves yourself.

your partner if he wants to stay your partner ,
must show willing,
to go along with you, in some things too

good luck

>^,,^< .

Answer 10

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It has been my experience (married twice) that:
You can't change a person's TRAITS, but you can change the BEHAVIOURS and HABITS that are the *result* of some traits...

For instance - you can't make someone "not lazy" - but through talks and reinforcement, you can encourage someone to choose the second option (First choice of a "lazy" person? Leave the empty container in the fridge. Second choice? Put it in the recycle bin and replace it with a new one)... my hubby's instinct, as a result of his laziness is to ignore the empty container, but he knows I am happier when he goes the extra mile, so he does now.
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Answer 11

Rarely do people change, and rarely can you change a person. Any age after around 18 is too late.

I think you should add some more details, it's more complicated than that.