Hi,
I am a simple,low I.Q level girl with less tolerane power,I beome irritated and frustated easily and other people take advantage of it especially my inlaws,they are too controlling and interfering plus they take advantage of my this weakness and make me irritated which results in a fight b/w me and my husband,causing him more in their control,I have a 15 months old son,they show too much love for him but don`t let my husband to save anything for him and control his finances by making him transfer his money to his father,sisters and brother in laws banks by making false requirements.My husband whenever talks to his mother ,she must always make him talk to her elder daughter to take advice on every single matter of life including his wife and son,my this sister in law is a complete cheat and lier and make my husband fool in minutes,and taking all her advantages from him,infact her advices are more harmful for me and my son`s future.Please HELP ME ,advice me and pray for me,Thanks
2006-09-07 07:56:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First. You and your husband need to sit and talk this over. You need to explain everything what you just stated here.
Second. You and your husband need to agree that any financial decisions within your house will be made by you and your husband. If you don't agree, no decision is made and no money goes out.
Third. You and your husband need to agree that any opinions outside of your marriage are just that... opinions outside of your marriage. You and your husband can listen to and consider these outside family opinions, but you and your husband will decide what works best for you both and your child.
Finally. Pass some of the above comments on to his family members together.
Stand strong as a couple and if his family can't accept your new foundation as a married couple, then they can't come around until they do.
Good luck and God bless...
2006-09-07 08:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me start by saying that i am truly sorry to hear this bit of information. U and ur husband really need to talk, once he made his vows to u he should have left his family out of it. In my opinion there is no way that this relationship is going to get any better unless u seriously stand up for urself. Unfortunately I know this is not going to be the easiest thing to do, but u have to since it obvious that ur husband won't. U also say that their advice is more harmful to u and ur son, this is not good. U have a responsibility to ur son to protect him for as long as u can, u can not continue to allow this to go on. Its time for u to step up and just flat out tell him that u will not stand for this treatment. His actions r unacceptable as a husband and a father, either he does something about it or some strong consequences will occur!
2006-09-07 15:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say YOU are the one with a low I.Q? What kind of IDIOT is your husband? You and he are married. Your finances, home, child etc. are the concern of you and him, not him and his family! He needs to grow a spine and quit letting them run his life. You and the child should come first, not THEM. Honestly, if he cannot put you and the baby first, you should leave and find a REAL man.
2006-09-07 15:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you need to tell this to your husband. he shouldn't take the side of his parents when you're the one he's married to. reread the vows you took when you got married... what does it say? well from what i remember it says "...I promise to love, cherish, and stick by you until death do us part..." he needs to consider your son as well because if he's not good for you or your son then you need to leave. this is not a healthy relationship and he's taking advantage of you. the whole point of leaving the parents house is to have freedom and make your own mistakes, he still acts like he is living under his parents roof and he needs to grow up and be a man. tell him that. if if he gets made well the f**k him and move on. good luck and god bless!
2006-09-07 15:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems you married into the wrong family but tell me this how can you show a kid too much love? you need to stand up for yourself you didn't marry the family.i will pray for you. It sounds like your husband has the low iq be a man get yo family out of your business
2006-09-07 15:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need some help with this, go to your church or the department of human resources in your town. You can get free counseling from these people and they might help to be sure no one is using you and your husband because you don't understand them very well. Good luck and God Bless you.
2006-09-07 15:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the things with marriage is to let go of mom and dad and become your own person and make your own family. I mean it's definately okay to ask them for advice and that , but sounds like he's way too involved with them. The choices he makes especially with his finances should be made between you and him and kept between you and him. Sounds like he needs to grow up and you need to tell him to let go. Stop letting them control you, you are your own person and you have someone else that needs to look up to you your baby is gonna grown and learn from you, do you you want him/her to be like you when they grow up? Not to sound ignorant, but do what you believe in. I will pray for you to have strength.
2006-09-07 15:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Amy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put my foot down and tell your husband to stop taking your problems to his family. It should be between you and him. He married you not his family! Not only that but u need to do what is best for your son. your in my prayers. good luck!
2006-09-07 15:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by Grace Q. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try being friendly with ur mother in law,and try gainning ur sister in law's trust,make them a big meal and try showing them u care about them,go out shopping with them etc.. try doing many activities with them,it might really help,anyways ill be praying for u,good luck.
2006-09-07 15:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by kamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it you have three choices............ One is to stand up for yourself with the family. Two is get him away from his family, he's an adult for God sake he needs to start acting like one, or Three, leave the situation.
2006-09-07 15:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋