one my best friends told me that she and my boyfriend had a fling going while we went out but that was 6 years ago.
i did not know her at that time but i wish she told me sooner.
i feel like a blind fool.
2006-09-07 07:53:06 · 20 answers · asked by melley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-09-07 07:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your no blind fool, your vision is fine...if you keep either of those cheating rats in your life, then you might be a fool. I really don't know you. It depend on your move!
Keeping either of them would make you out to be stupid and like you have no control over your life. You would be pathetic. They will always be planning and hiding stuff behind your back. And they have already been together, hooking up again would be simple. You would be the blind fool, if you turned away.
I wouldn't forgive, I would forget them both. That is, after I literally execute both of the traitors in an unfortunate accident.
The next little while is gonna be tough. Good luck!
2006-09-07 15:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she didnt tell you because it was before you and she didnt want to make a big deal of it.
But that would make me question her point of telling you now? Ask her why she's telling you now and if she has a good reason then forgive her and tell her that you would rather have heard it in the beginning and to tell the truth out front next time instead of holding it in. If she has stupid or shady reasoning for telling, get rid of her!!
As a matter of fact, why didn't he tell you?? Find out!
2006-09-07 14:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel like a fool..but you have to look at it this way, at least she finally told you. I know that it definately bothers you, but you should forgive her, only cause it did happen forever and a day ago and you didn't even know her. what about your boyfriend...shouldn't you be a little upset at him as well????
2006-09-07 15:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Hydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you decide to forgive because you need your peace of mind. it doesn't change if you feel like forgiving or not, you just do it.
in the mean time you need to ask God to help you forgive and let go becasue He can give you a lot strength and take away your hurt.
forgiveness takes time and it doesn't mean you agree with what the person did to you, but that you let it go, don't hold a grudge against them and also that you will need to be careful trusting them again.
:)
2006-09-07 15:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your friend probably wanted to tell you a long time ago but was afraid you wouldn't believe her, that she was just jealous of you and trying to break up your relationship. The best thing to do is just ask her. If you are still with that guy, it would probably be a good idea not to take him so seriously anymore.
2006-09-07 15:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by SaraG 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forgiveness is a choice. you can either choose to forgive your friend or hold unto unforgiveness which will only lead to you hurting more, not your friend. furthermore, if Jesus can choose to forgive and even pray for those who put him on the cross, what more you to forgive. Unforgiveness is you holding someone prisoner and that prisoner is you, not your friend. Forgiving her for something that happened sometime ago will only bring peace of mind to you.
2006-09-07 15:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by PCarm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have 2 4give and go on with Ur life. Don't allow that 2take hold of U. What don't kill U makes U stronger. She is not Ur friend.
2006-09-07 14:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Is she a Christian with real sorrow? If not I wouldnt want her as a friend after that.."
Wow. Stellar example of good Christianity at work, there...LOL!!
It's been six years. You didn't know one another. Maybe she didn't tell you, cuz she didn't want something that happened six years ago to come between the two of you!!
2006-09-07 15:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well she told you now. i would be asking my man why he didn't tell me & why he did it in the 1st place. i think its gd for her 2 b honest. & she confronted you. you should say how you feel, but at the same time forgive her. it was the past & it was a mistake. i mean yall didn't e'en know each other at the time.
2006-09-07 14:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be more mad at him. She had no knowledge of you as a person back then, or you of her. He is the one who was unfaithful to you, not her.Yes the knowledge hurts, but it was a long time ago, forgive her............... him I wouldn't be so easy with.
2006-09-07 14:57:24 · answer #11 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋