this time I didn't because I was getting this very bad feeling that I should just go.. well anyway I showed up and I see him coming aroung the corner from another apt. then he starts yelling at me asking me why i didn't call first he started calling me names and well saying he wasnt doing nothing bad he was just hanging out with his friend and that he could call him so that i can believe him. what ever i didn't say anything but it just made me wonder could he be cheating on me? After i left he called and he was still mad yelling at me and telling me if you want to break up lets just do it (we been together for 4 yrs). Does it sound like hes guilty???? please I need some advice!
2006-09-07 07:40:55 · 25 answers · asked by dream 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just tallked to him a few. min. ago and he called me a dumb ***** telling me "u know we both don't care about each other were just used to one another so just come pick up your stuff!" ... then a few min. later he calls and says "i don't want to argue anymore i'm sorry" what the hell is wrong with this guy? should i believe him? oh and I was going trough his cell bill and i saw this # i called it a girl answered and i heard him on the backroung talkin, so i called his house he wouldnt pick up i called his cell no answer then he returned my call 10 min. later!
2006-09-07 08:15:40 · update #1
definitely up to something..if you feel you cannot trust him then let him go...why do you have to call first after 4 years you should be able to drop in if you want.
2006-09-07 07:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off did u ask any questions to him for him to reply to...if you didn't and he just bursted out saying he wasnt doing anything wrong more than likely he was up to no good...can't say that he has actually cheated but all men are capable of it at some point in life. Try not to assume anything... you have been in the relationship for 4 years now, there should be some sort of trust in there, simply ask him and he should tell the truth that is not always the case because most guys are afraid that they will loss out but if he gets mad at you for asking that question "are you cheating on me" that is normally a sign that they are. Good luck and remeber your beautiful no matter whats he says.
2006-09-07 15:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by Shocked 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant really tell if hes guilty of cheating on you or not, but he definetly has some issues and you do not deserve that someone yells at you like that for no apparent reason, specially from someone who is suppose to love you. It dosent matter if you called him b4 or not, it just sounds terrible that he was so unpleased to see you, he should be happy from the surprise right? I really hope you can see this and get a better person for you who really cares.
2006-09-07 14:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Evangelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my soon to be ex-husband was cheating on me (and yes I was dumb enough to allow this fool to do it to me several times), he would get very defensive if I was on to him about something. He would turn it around on me and make me feel bad about it. It's a typical defense mechanism where they use anger and/or reverse any accusations or suspicions against you to further protect what they are in fact really hiding or doing behind ur back. I would be very cautious about him because you have been his gf for four years and shouldn't need to call before you come everytime. In addition, who the hell decides that they want to end a 4 YEAR relationship on account of their gf stopping by without calling? Thats just crazy. It sounds to me that you were about to catch him doing something that would upset you and he was mad bc he didn't get the phone call from you so he had enough time to lie and leave you in the dark. He definitely sounds guilty and like I said proceed with caution because now that you just showed up and quite possibly exposed something wrong that he is doing, he might be more cautious himself in covering up his tracks.
2006-09-07 14:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does sound like he his guilty but before you do anything drastic sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk let him know upfront that it will be a civil talk no yelling or hitting that it is tearing a hole in your heart and you want to clear the air about what happened. If he is still persistant about breaking up than tell him you would like to remain friends. Who knows if you do break up he may come to his senses and realize he was wrong and may find his way back to you.
Whatever happens I wish you luck.
2006-09-07 14:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by stubbornmom2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You onlly gave us the information on what happened on an unannounced visit. You hinted that it was done because you were suspicious. He was busted getting out of bed with his friend. You already know that. What you do next is your choice. Remember that you are a very special person and cherished by many I am sure. It may not be the right time to hear this but do not settle for this man. There are men out there that will treat you like the center of their world. The perfect man is out there....
2006-09-07 14:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by shelli552003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound guilty, because men often get angry when they feel defensive. You describe a HUGE overreaction. An appropriate reaction would have been a big smile and "Hey, I'm glad you dropped by!"
It is also not a good sign that he called you names. If this is a regular thing in your relationship, it does not bode well because insults retard communication by creating hurt feelings.
2006-09-07 14:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my advice. It doesn't matter what he was doing, whether he's guilty, whether he felt guilty, or he was just surprised. Going off on you for no reason is a deal-breaker. Even if he's working for the CIA on a super hot secret mission, there is no reason to get angry and berate you when he lays eyes on you. NONE, ZERO, ZILCH. No one who is sane sees their girl friend or boy friend and goes off on them the way he did.
My problem isn't with his behavior so much as how is it that you let yourself get connected with such a turd for four years? That's not a good sign at all.
2006-09-07 15:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he got caught and hes freaking out! A GF of 4 years shouldn't have to call if she wants to stop by. If he was just hanging out with his friends you would have thought he would have said something more like "hey hun, i was just hanging out with the guys, what you doing here" in a calm voice. NOT YELLING. I would dump his a$$.
2006-09-07 14:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by cmp8423 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds 2me that he is guilty. And he wants out of the relationship. Follow Ur heart. I think U already know what to do. I know it hurts. but this might be a good thing that U see what type of person he is.
2006-09-07 14:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who cares about you should be happy to see you, even if you didn't call first. Sounds like he is looking for an excuse to end your relationship. You should take the hint and let it go.
2006-09-07 14:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋