I work with a girl I can not stand. Now she has been made my temporary boss. I have tried being openminded, but I just can't stand anything about her. There are only 3 people in the office so I can't aviod her. She is extremely bossy, and is always nosing around in my work. It's not necessary since I do a good job, and get everything I need to done. I'm trying to be positive here... any suggestions?
2006-09-07 07:36:53 · 12 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Remember that it's only temporary that she's your boss. Also consider that she's probably genuinely a nice person, but may hate her job or have something else going on in her life that you don't know about (marital troubles, family, money, etc.) thus resulting in her irratibility in the workplace. You don't know what she's going through, so put yourself in her shoes before you judge. Be friendly with her, and chances are you'll get that in return.
2006-09-07 07:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's exactly about her that you can't stand? Her hairdo? Clothes? Speech? Attitude? Maybe the problem is YOU, not her. If your opinion about her is biased, how do I know your claim of "her being bossy and nosy" is accurate? Let's assume it's true. You just have to endure it because bossiness and nosiness, though not regarded favorable, are managerial prerogatives. You can show her boss that you are very professional by putting up with your temporary boss' lousy attitude. Maybe you will be rewarded. After all, this girl is your boss only for the time being (temporary).
2006-09-07 14:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I deal with this situation is that I find something about the person that I do like and I focus on that and genuinly compliment that person about that quality. Some people call it brown nosing...but I call it focusing on the positive, and it isn't like I lie. I think that because of this I have a better relationship with all the people in my office.
I did go to therapy at one point in my life and my therapist told me that if we hate someone that what we hate about them is usually what we hate about ourselves and so we should take that and learn from it and it will help US to be a better person.
It is so draining to dislike someone, you should take your energy and put it towards other things, even if you don't compliment her or try to be her friend, you shouldn't give her any satisfaction of taking one minute of enjoyment out of your life.
2006-09-07 14:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really tough one, and I've been in this position before as well. Usually when people act like she does (bossy, nosy, etc) it's because they feel insecure and/or poorly about their work ability. Usually they're not used to people standing up to them in a non-defensive manner, so when she's "on the prowl" I would suggest approaching her in a really calm way and saying something like, "I've noticed you seem to be overly concerned about me and the quality of my work. If there's something we should talk about, let's get it out in the open now." I have a feeling she may ease up after that.
If that doesn't help, just try not to dwell on it too much. The more we think about situations like this and of people we don't like, the more it starts affecting us. If you like your job, concentrate more on what you like about it, especially when things get bad with her.
2006-09-07 14:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to ur higher ups about this problem before I have the same problem at my job with a wanna be manager who is a brown noser and is always in my space I simply asked her one day if she had anything better to do that did not fix it so I tried talking to her in private and told her that she should worry about her self and that i was concerned that she wasnt getting her work done because she was spending so much time over my shoulder and she should respect my personal space that fixed the problem but if that doent work you should talk to ur HR dept. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-07 14:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by krazy salazar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally empathize! I know how hard it is to wake up day after day knowing I will be spending the next ten hours of my life with people I can't stand. All I can say is just be professional, and do your damn best so she won't have any reason to criticize your work. Good luck, and just know that you're not alone in this predicament. I feel your pain.
2006-09-07 14:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you said she is your "temporary" boss. If you can just hang in there. Otherwise just let her know... but in a nice manner and probably in on a one on one basis. Or better yet just pray a meteor crashes directly into her office and her's alone. The day is almost over love...good luck :)
2006-09-07 14:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Labo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a great personal conversation start with private moment to talk to each other. meanwhile, be positive, patient and just do ur job. never leave a job cos of negative thoughts. i will pray 4u both.
2006-09-07 14:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not a lot you can do, but accept it. Just try to not think of her as the enemy. Try to blow her off in your mind. I would also suggest you look for another job.
2006-09-07 14:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your philosophy, at least be grateful you don't have to live with her. you're here for the money anyway.
2006-09-07 14:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋