My boyfriend and I have sex at least 8 times a week, but now I'm finding he is masturbating and watching porn as well. He is also into virtual porn which means he is in control of what he wants the girl to do. I can't help thinking he's going to cheat one day 'cause I'll never be enough, although he says I am and really loves and lusts me and would never cheat on me. Should I get out of this relationship?
2006-09-07 07:32:42 · 13 answers · asked by V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your bf just might be a sex addict. Its actually a 'real' condition, seems like just a lack of self control to me but hey they claim its a real problem. I've seen a couple of shows about it. There are lots of websites with info on the subject, just put sexual addiction in to any search engine and you'll find it. I'd find out and if he truly meets the criteria I would definitely get out of the relationship because just like with any other addiction, it will get worse and just like a drunk requires more and more alcohol to satisfy his addiction so will your bf require more and more sex and he will eventually cheat, it has nothing to do with you. This isn't about 'love' and don't fool yourself in to thinking it is. You won't always have sex 8 times a week and then what. Sounds to me like the guy (as so many of them are) is obsessed with his penis, that alone would be enough to convince me I didn't want anything to do with him...I mean come on how ridiculous is that? It will win out over 'love' for him sooner or later and then you'll have to worry about what diseases you might catch from him and the stakes on that are just too high to play with. The one thing you definitely need to do is stop thinking this has anything to do with you not being enough....this is his screwed up issue! You can't blame yourself because he's too stupid to be satisfied and appreciate what he has! That's his failing, not YOURS! Women do that to themselves all the time and it causes them so much pain that they shouldn't have. See it for what it really is, his problem.
2006-09-07 07:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's obsessed with sex... IMO, it's only a small step from virtual sex to sex in RL. Looking at pictures is one thing, but engaging a person at the other end is another. Of course he's gonna tell you he's not gonna cheat on you, I haven't seen it yet for a cheater to admit he WOULD cheat. It's up to you to evaluate what this relationship is worth to you. I wouldn't be able to tolerate it.
2006-09-07 07:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get out of the relationship or stay with someone who sounds like a sex addict. I think he needs help. It's not that "you" are not enough; for an addict, it's never enough! Do a search on the computer for Sex Addicts and find a support group for you or him.
2006-09-07 08:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any normal man masturbates, it is a fact that most of our thoughts are of a sexual manner. It sounds to me like you are searching for reasons to get out of a relationship. Try watching the porn with him and stop being such a drag, lifes to short to live questioning!
2006-09-07 07:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tweendasheetz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has a serious problem and you already know that or you would not be asking. Porn is an addiction.
Get out of this relationship and find someone who will respect you. Find your own self respect and wait for marriage.
Good luck!
G.G.
2006-09-07 07:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be a voyerist/exhibitionist side of him; maybe you guys should video tape your "sessions", this might help him control his urges.
In regards to the virtual sex, maybe he just likes some positions better than others; for instance, not everybody likes close-ups.
2006-09-07 07:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, if he can't get enough with you, 8 times per week, then eventually he is going to expand his horizon, if you know what I mean. Get out now.
2006-09-07 07:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virtual Sex Sounds
2017-02-20 15:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably could use magazines and the phone if the internet wasn't available. I like all three myself.
2006-09-07 07:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definatly flogging his log elsewhere ! Either go get out or go do your own thing !
2006-09-07 07:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Freak Nasty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋