So much discussion about the "bad" Mother-In-Law. Is it just a natural thing, or is the Mother-In-Law that bad. What does she do that irritates you the most? Can you ever really like/love her? I have two ex-daughter-in-laws, and two daughter-in-laws, there are 9 children between all of them, and they all hate each other. Can you get the picture? What to do?
2006-09-07 07:21:24 · 5 answers · asked by shardf 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Two of the daughter-in-laws and the ex-daughter-in-law, who stole the other's husband, was the best friend, etc. They can pull me in, and the present wife will play it up to the husband, my son, who is a little bit of a jerk anyway. I can't seem to win. Two children to each of the wive's with my son. Two girls are teenagers and just barely are on good terms with the father. I am caught in the middle... HELP?
2006-09-07 07:25:13 · update #1
Ohhh Mama you is in a bad spot. Speak only when spoken to and don't try to give any of them advise.
I think we have a bad attitude towards MILs just from conditioning. Sort of the same thing that happens from hearing blond jokes. So there are automatic expectations of a bad relationship before it even starts.
I don't mind my MIL being assertive, but the late MIL was a manipulator - AHHHHHH!
2006-09-07 07:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen some that do get along and some that don't. My mother-in-law didnt' like me from the get go and she didn't even know me. Just took one look and decided she didn't care for me at all. I have tolerated her throughout the years and she is now more or less civilized. I make it a point to not go around her unless I have to since I don't enjoy her company. She chews tobacco and then tries to talk and I do not understand and then she says I am uppity because I pretend not to understand her. Blah, Blah. I think that happens especially when mothers have only one son and no other children. I hope I am never like that with my son's wife. As long as she treats him right I believe to be happy.
2006-09-07 14:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked my ex mom in law...but couldnt love her. She was very social and when she'd have any kind of get together it was like a huge hen party and I couldnt and wouldnt compete with a dozen other women talking. Of course this made her feel like I didnt like her. I couldn't make them understand that it wasn't her it was simply a matter of not being able to keep up with 3 different conversations all directed at you...at the same time. And of course she occasionally treated me like a child....but I think all mom in laws do that sometimes...just something you gotta deal with. My suggestion to you is dont get sucked in unless you absolutely have to...its a lose/lose situation you have though and I'm sorry for the way the women in your life have treated you.
2006-09-07 14:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by t_matczak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think some mothers-in-law are just over protective. i think sometimes it could be jealousy towards her childs partner.... imagine having someone from the moment of conception til birth til he/she grows up then suddenly someone
some mother in law has those perception.
of course we can love her, juz lay off the overprotective side and let the children decide for themselves. of course with a few guidance but not too much ,ok?
you cant do anything about them hating each other.. what you need to do is love all of them despite their differences
2006-09-07 14:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i will be happy if she can mind her business, nosy *****
2006-09-07 14:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋