7-year itch?

Question

My wife and I have been married for over 6 years and have 1 child. We have both admitted that we're feeling that 7-year itch. Any advice on how to get the sparks flying again?

Answer 1

spice up what you do in the bed room you .... both need to sit down maybe to the dinner table and talk about would your fantasies are and talk about things that would get you excited what stimulates you and try sharing this things with each other you just got into a rut that is all it can happen to any one but the idea is to get right back out of it fast and save your marriage from ruin you want to stay faith full so do some thing romantic again go to dinner and or dancing or rent a hotel have the grandparents or some one you trust watch the kid and have a little fun with each other rent a r rated movie sorry I am not in to porn and get some ideas to spice up your bed room get some sexy night wear for both of you and light a candle burn some in good smelling stuff or spay a little of your favorite perfume etc read up on some new positions to try etc go on the Internet and check out some things to try .

Try this below:

http://www.tryliberator.com/

Answer 2

You have to be creative, and remember all the reasons why you fell in love with in the first place, Stop thinking about the 7 year itch, do the dishes, cook her a nice meal, take her on a picnic, I will promise you if you do things nice for her, your life will be better. Tell her all the things why you love her! a note means a lot, a rose, or a potted plant, that the two of you can watch grow, and tell her, that is how your heart grown for her each and every day. I like the idea you are trying to bring the spark, in your marriage.

Answer 3

Child is the key word here.

Unless you just don't like each other anymore and just need to move on, grow up and don't put your child through something that will, no matter what you do, have harmful effects.

The 7 year itch involves sex and sex with some one else doesn't have to be better nor is it guaranteed to be better with some one else. In fact, it is usually awkward until you get to know some one. You might try surprising each other and acting differently than you do normally. Strike up an agreement with each other to go along with whatever the other does as long as it's not harmful or degrading. Then experiment. Try different kinds of sex. Tie each other up. Dominate. Submit. Get kinky. What goes on in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

Answer 4

You need some alone time, get away forr a few days, start role playing..change the sex routine, keep things fresh...IF you are feeling this, you are taking each other for granted..a big no no in life. Flowers for no reason, a quickie in the back seat fo the car...whatever you used to do before you had all the legitimacy..try it again and work out from there. 7 year itch is a nice saying for " GEE I am getting bored." So don't let it happen. There is no reason not to have a great time at this point in your marriage, but it takes constant work, thoughtfulness, etc...so get to it.

Answer 5

It's not that simple--sparks can still fly, but they're different sparks now. If you're stuck wanting to relive past exciting moments--you're going to fail in your marriage.

The idea of a long-term marriage is to learn to take great satisfaction out of being really good at it. In the early parts, you're satisfied by having in-house entertainment. But that fades. Become an artist at your marriage and take pride and satisfaction out of how good you can make it. It's a different kind of enjoyment--not as flashy but it strikes deeper and lasts longer.

Think of it this way--the first part of the relationship is like finding a $100 on the sidewalk. How exciting!! That's really fun! But as you mature, you learn how to make a $100 anytime you want to. The later is not as exciting, but it's more satisfying and way more rewarding.

Answer 6

Stop and think back to what you both did when you were dating? Why you fell in love from the beginning and start all over again. Long walks, movies, just why and when you knew you were in love and start living those days again. You can bring the spark back :) Just remember all the reason why and let the fun begin :) I am certain she will enjoy it too !! :)

Answer 7

Date again...just make sure its with each other. The 7 year itch just means things have become dull and your brain is thirsty for something to keep it busy...do something that challenges and quenches that. That something can be taking a class..like a cooking class together, I've seen things from local colleges here about massage classes for couple only (wink, wink) homework would be fun too! If you two like cooking together take a cooking class. It can be finding a new hobby, whatever you two like to do..build on it. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

i separated at 7 years divorced at 8 years. I was just burned out we married when i was 18 he was 21 i really felt we outgrew each other "why i never recomend young marriage". So i can't tell you how to spice up we even went to swing clubs had 3 sums in the end it was more then the sex.

Answer 9

I watched Primetime the other night and the subject was about swinging. All the participants swore that their swinging made their relationship much stronger. Swinging seemed to acknowledge the sexual desire or attraction we feel for others and aloow it to be satisfied without hurting the relationship. In fact, they all said the honesty and excitement made their relationship even better. Now how does that sound...hot sex with other people you lust for plus a stronger more intimate relationship with the one you truly love!

Answer 10

spend quality alone time together, be romantic, hopefully that is how you fell in love in the first place