You stopped making a connnection on any level with your intimate. The conversations either ended in argument or dissmissed because they didn't agree with or conform to the mind set of your partner. The harder you try to get along with them the more disasterous the situation gets. They demand your undevided attention and have expectations of you that your role of spouse is now a role of servitude with verbal assault, alienation of affection or selfish gratification leaving your heart, mind and spirit more hollow and empty than before. Courage seems to have left your body leaving you afraid to do what needs to be done. The degradation of the relationship is also deminished you as a person and somehow you have lost your identity as well as autonomy which is continually erroded away by the flood of reckless indifference to any emotion, need, want or desire. You have had your character assasinated over and over again with lies and disassociation from friend and family. Hope for help......
2006-09-07 06:41:38 · 7 answers · asked by want2flybye 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If all of this is what you are experiencing, it may be time to move on. But, you at least need to make your feelings known to the other person. You can't expect your spouse to fix what they don't know is broken. Perhaps hearing these words from you will make them see how they are acting, and maybe they will change. If not, move on.
2006-09-07 06:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all really deep from the heart but is it from your heart? If so file for divorce! If you don't want to do that then stand up for yourself get strong and live your own life no matter what he says, come and go as you please and as you do your esteem will come up and as that happens you'll become stronger with each passing day. Take a class join a group do things for your self put your foot down and do less for him, find ouside support form your own support group list supporters on a peice of paper if that one is unavailable go to the next one... Look into the mirror and give yourself only positive affrimations daily and numorous times through out the day! Ask for your higher being to come forth and shin through all other weaknesses. Be strong and just do for you like you have never done before! Give yourself the credit you need and the time you need to be a new stronger you that no one can damage...
2006-09-07 14:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I do? I would have been gone long before the degradation process was complete.
What you can do? Talk to some friends or family; they might be able to offer you the advice and support you need to leave an abusive relationship.
2006-09-07 13:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. it sounds like you are in a life rut. It also sounds like you have become a victim of abuse in your relationship. I would really have you look at going to seek counseling... I also would suggest that you take a day to get to know yourself.... Go to the mall... try on cloths, treat yourself to lunch... try to figure out if you would like to live your life out in the same situation or if you need a drastic change. Remember you are precious and beautiful and deserve to be treated with common respect.
2006-09-07 13:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this truly describes me and my life.... I feel like I need to leave and get on my own and find out who I truly am.... I know my husband is a really good man, but I don't see myself as being that good w/ him. I want to be the best me that I can, I just feel I can't acheive being the best with him. And if I leave the only one that could assasinate me would be me. good luck
2006-09-07 13:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by clover_t21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do what I did in this situation ... pack your bags and leave, file for a divorce, and get one with your life. You don't need this kind of influence in your life, and you can get well and be happy again.
2006-09-07 13:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hope we get some good answers, keep ur head up.
2006-09-07 13:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋