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2006-09-07 06:20:47 · 27 answers · asked by southwestphillycutie 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
I think I'd have to let him go if he told me that he was "gay" & not just "bi". It's only fair. If he's not attracted to females, why bother ? It's not that I'm against homo rels. But if he was bi I'd still go out wit him. Just as long as he didn't go out & cheat on me !!! I'm open-minded. Peeps can't help their sexuality... There are some who try really hard to become straight but I heard that that's REALLY hard to do ! I'm sure a lot of bi peeps would like to be straight. But wit gay, hmmm I know that there are a lot who are proud to be who/what they are. They are still peeps wit feelings. But if I had a really good & close, intimate rel wit him I'm sure he wouldn't betray me. How could he since the place I live in is too small for a lotta guys to come outta da closet ? Ha ha ha. There are a lotta bi/lesbian girls out here tho. How bout you ? What would you do ?
2006-09-07 06:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many other factors which would influence this decision.
- If they are truly gay, they are likely only with you because they are in the closet or view you as a friend. That likely isn't a 'good' situation. You should be a friend, but no more.
- If they are bisexual, but they are willing to monogamous, then there shouldn't be a problem. Hetero people often look at or fantasize about other people, but don't act on it out of respect for the relationship. You might want to be mindful of what turns them on and try and incorporate that into your lovemaking (for example, viewing pornography together that appeals to their bisexual nature).
- If they are bisexual and want to be able to act on that, then it is up to you if you can be happy with that. You would also be concerned that they need to take precautions against STDs (as you would in any 'open' relationship).
2006-09-07 13:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be a tough decision... Hmmm... I got married in a church in front of God and my family, so on one hand I'd want to stick to my vows, but on the other hand this person has already violated your relationship. Maybe allot of people could just so easily say "get rid of the ******" but for me there's be so much to weigh and consider before making any such decisions. Do we share children? Were there huge problems in this releationship before I found out? Is there enough love here to keep the relationship going? But most importantly, can this person continue their life and be true to me ONLY? Can this person resist temptation and continue his love for God and his family? If this person is going to be married to me but constantly eye his own gender all the time, or if 'm going to find him in the sack with another guy then there's absolutely no reason for even trying to continue the relationship. Anyway this is just my opinion. I guess no one can say for sure what they'd really do unless they've personally been in this situation, right...?
2006-09-07 13:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by Songbird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let them go. If you really love the person, you would let them go. It's important for you both to be happy- and they wouldn't be happy if they had to pretend that they are some one they are not. You two could remain close friends. But if your significant other still wanted to maintain your close relationship and you are fine with the fact that they are gay, then I don't see any problem in you two continuing to date. But more than likely you should go your seperate ways (dating-wise).
2006-09-07 13:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I found out they were gay I would do the right thing and let them go. Yes I would be mad that they hid it, but in the long run I would want them to be happy.... and how could they be happy in a heterosexual relationship?
But if you meant if they were bisexual, then I would stay with them. As long as they are not cheating on me with a man or a woman, their sexual preferences doesn't make a difference.
2006-09-07 13:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be such a terrible shock that you can't possibly know how you would respond... I would be totally devastated. I think that eventually when the shock wore off, I would have to move on... I don't see much point in being married to a gay man. I would probably still love him and care about him, but I could probably never love him the same way I love him now...
2006-09-07 13:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess if he were gay I would have to let him go. I mean, why would you be with someone who could never love you like a boyfriend/husband is suppose to? After time you can always be friends, I've seen that happen.
2006-09-07 13:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by sorcha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, from experience...the love of my life was gay...and I stayed..we eventually knew that even though we loved each other...he was still missing something that I could not give. We are still close friends and I'd go back in a heartbeat....I wanted him to be happy and satified even if it meant letting him go. Or you can live like Will & Grace....we do>>.
2006-09-07 13:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how gay. Exclusivly gay? Then of course they should go seek happiness they cant have with you. Just sorta gay but madly in love with you I could probably work with. As long as the sex satisfies you both and they are not cheating we can mark them up as GAY-but in remission
2006-09-07 13:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by der_grosse_e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad to say, but I married a man because he wanted a child so bad and so did I!! Then after the baby was born he never had sex with me again, ever. He came out telling me he's somewhat gay. So of course I divorced his @$$
2006-09-07 13:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋