i am 42 recently divoriced just getting back into the dating seen after 15 years. My friends and i are having this discussion and i would like more imput on this.
2006-09-07 06:18:45 · 15 answers · asked by Minnie Me 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
This will depend upon you and what you and your beliefs are comfortable with.
2006-09-07 06:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rance D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a tough one. Being a single divorced man 45 years old I have a bit of experience on this subject. I guess the answer is when it feels right. Although I have been on several dates since my divorce there is only one person I have been intimate with as "it just felt right".
I really think that we have an internal mechanism that lets us know this. I have had opportunities on occasions but I refrained because I just was not ready and I knew I would regret it. Listen to your instincts & never give in because you are afraid what someone will think. You will thank yourself for this.
Good Luck
~V
2006-09-07 13:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by vince R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends. The standard is different now. Men expect it after a few dates. A good guy who likes you is willing to wait for it for a while.
It depends on what you want. If you are looing for fun, go ahead and sleep around. Use protection and noone will think twice.
If you are looking for a long term relationship,wait a while and see if the guy sticks around.
BP
2006-09-07 13:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by billyandgaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not on the first date! For me, I'd just let things flow and see what happens. I don't think there's a specific time during dating that people need to sleep together.
2006-09-07 13:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by magi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have both had clean blood tests and feel comfortable with the situation. Remember use protection. I practice celibacy myself but know it's not for everyone. I would have to know the relationship was going to be very long term before the sex.
2006-09-07 13:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will know when it is the right time. Dating is different when you are a little older (I am older than you are). The men are more mature and there isn't the issues that come up when you are young and dating. At least that has been my experience.
2006-09-07 13:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no set time--It would depend on the individuals.
You shouldn't sleep with anyone unless YOU really want to sleep with THEM, not because you're being pressured, or just because you need sex .
It's too easy to get stuck with someone who's wrong for you that way.
2006-09-07 13:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just depends on what you're looking for I guess...and what your partner thinks about it. Nothing wrong with sex on a first date...and theres nothing wrong with waiting a few dates either. There's really no standard anymore...you just do it when you want to do it.
2006-09-07 13:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Franklin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the first guy I slept with, we'd been together about a year. With my last bf, it was the second date. I married that one!
2014-01-15 00:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can sleep together on the second date, if it is the first then dont plan on keeping that person unless it is just for fun!
2006-09-07 13:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by suri cruise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can expect something by the 3rd date. If you really like the person, you might want to wait longer.
2006-09-07 13:24:41 · answer #11 · answered by Johnny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋