I have a significant other (male) but I want to be with a woman one time. He is not into it.
do you think I should do it and not tell him.
I do love him
I don't know what to do
2006-09-07 06:07:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thats a double-sided question. First, you admit to having bi-curious feelings, and second you are in a relationship and he says he doesn't get into that.
For the first part, its a good thing you recognize the fact that you are curious. That takes courage.
Secondly, is there any particular reason as to why he's not into it? I can think of any number of guys I know who love having two women at the same time. Perhaps he's had a bad experience with threesomes. However, maybe if you talk to him and explain that you are having these feelings, he might be open to the both of you just going out and looking.
If you do decide to have a bisexual experience, you should be open and honest with him about it. If you don't, it could come between the two of you and ruin a good relationship.
I would sit down and just talk to him and see why he's against it so much. Perhaps he has a good reason. But whatever it is, you need to respect him and he needs to respect you in this matter.
And if you do, congrats!! Its lots of fun. :))
2006-09-07 06:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by tiggerluv252000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I feel that it is your duty to yourself to experience life for yourself and explore your choices for life experiences. After all you wouldn't want to feel much later in your life that you wished you would have done this or that.
That said, then you have to decide whats best as far as your bf is concerned. Sex away from your partner(regardless of gender) is considered cheating...that's a fact. He has feelings and the fact that it would be with a woman does not matter to him. Many men would be delighted by this...but not him.
Here are some thoughts you should consider first. If the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel? Never do to someone else that you wouldn't want done to yourself. Remember it will be you who will have to live with your decision.
With all the considerations, you have to decide what to do. Do you do it behind his back? Do you be up front and tell him that this is what you are going to do? Or do you wait and if you and he should part, thereby setting you free, become more in touch with yourself and explore all your opportunities and sensuality's.
Good luck on whatever you decide.
2006-09-07 13:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that, will do it again. if it is something that you really want to do, make sure you think about it a LOT before you do it and make sure it is something you REALLY want to do. make sure you talk with him too. tell him exactly what you are feeling. Tellhim not only that you want to do it but also WhY you want to do it. If he knows all the details, then you should be ok, and he won't wory as much. If it turns out that you like girls more tha guys, then that is what was meant to be. or you can be like me, be happily married to the man of my dreams, and still get a chance to have female realtions every now and again. Its called being bi-curious honey. its not a bad thing. IF that is who you are, then go for it. you shouldn't hold back just because someone doesn't like it.
2006-09-07 13:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't do it without telling him. Actually, if you are in a comitted relationship, you shouldn't anyway. Unless he is open to those kind of experiences. Are you male or female?
It would destroy any kind of trust you might have together.
Secrets always destroy.......whether the significant other finds out......or not. It is always hanging over your head/heart.
Good luck!
2006-09-07 13:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by chattykatty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of woman has bisexual curiosity, but if you made a commitment to your mate to be in monogamous relation, than the sex even with the woman is a crossing the boundary. Why do u think your relation with woman will end after one time encounter? it may be develop into lesbian relation. Is it worth to risk. Is it worth to be cheater?
2006-09-07 13:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with the woman, if you don't it will be on your mind for the rest of your life and you will grow to blame your bf for not letting you do something that you want to do.
2006-09-07 13:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be very careful in what u wanna do.if u and ur bf hang out only 4 the sex,u might do it without telling him.....but if u love him very much and you know dat he might be very disgusted by this,u had better not do this and jeopardise ur relationship.after all,love is always better than sex.
2006-09-07 13:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by coolashluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if there is no childred involved
then go for it
but always be honest w/ who you are w/
you should get tested w/ the girl 2gether
for any stds b 4 any thing
2006-09-07 13:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do, but tell him. First, before you do it.
In fact, invite him.
I know you said he's not into it, but how can that be? All guys think it's hot!!!
2006-09-07 13:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do it and dont tell him, but be ready for the consequences....what if you like it more than straight sex? consider the ramifications in your present relationship and make sure it is worth the risk to you.
2006-09-07 13:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by grl_addict 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋