My husband would rather stay home and watch the first official football games of the season than go to the kids' school open house. I feel that he is being selfish and thinking of himself first and not about what is important to the kids. I understand that it's just open house, but it is the principle. He sending a message to them that they are not a priority. And it's not like he's choosing to find a cure for cancer instead of focusing on parenting..it's JUST FOOTBALL! I'm slowly losing respect for him as a parent and it's affecting our relationship. Everything is always about him. But my main question today is just about this one issue. He knows I don't agree with his choice, but I didn't push the issue like I could. Is this something worth fighting for or should I just let this one go?
2006-09-07 05:56:46 · 26 answers · asked by MamaB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I completely agree with you... on many levels.
Ask him if he would please DVR or otherwise record the first games and attend open house as it's important to you as well as the children. Football games will not keep him warm in his old age....
Parenting isn't something you're only supposed to do when it's convenient for your sport schedule. It's a full time job and not just for one parent. I'd tell him that when he makes these choices, it makes YOU feel like a single parent.
He needs to record the sports and attend the open house and other events with the children. You can't record childhood and watch it later. He may not wake up and realize that until their childhood is gone :(
2006-09-07 06:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure a lot of husbands would rather stay home and watch a football game (or even watch paint dry) than go to an open house at school, but you are absolutely right to be angry, and you should not let this go. I know from experience that these types of school events are really important to children - even the ones who won't admit it. They want their parents to see where they spend such a large part of their days, and when they discuss the day with you, they like to feel that you really know what they are talking about.
I would suggest asking your husband to tape his game, and watch it at another time, but it sounds like this is just one of many selfish actions on his part.
2006-09-07 06:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to stand up for this one. It's important that both parents be involved with their children's school regardless of what night of the week it falls on and what's on TV! Get TIVO for craps sake, tell him you'll record the game and he's coming with you! Period! Why does he need a choice in the matter? Crap like this annoys me personally. Because i am totally with you! I would say let it go b/c is a trivial matter, but the idea behind it isn't. This is your kids you are talking about....vs, football. There should be nothing to "choose" here!
2006-09-07 06:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say find a compromise. If the Football games are important to him, let him stay home and watch (get Tivo!). However, while you are at Open House, meeting with the kids' teachers, ask for an appointment when your husband (and you) can come and talk one on one with the teachers so that he can participate in the kids' education. If he balks at the appointment, you'll know you're dealing with a bigger problem.
2006-09-07 06:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by CHos3n 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it is important to you than it is worth fighting for. Your husband should play an active role in his childrens life. He is their father and a football game can be recorded and watched after the open house. Good luck with this one.
2006-09-07 06:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by rustymoch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are husbands so difficult? I would try not to 'fight' but bring it up to him in a calm manner. Tell him the mesage you think it sends to the children. Tell him you would really love to have him at your side during the open house because you are CO-parents to your children and you value his input concerning their education (and everything else). He can watch the rest of the game when he returns-they last forever anyway. If he still choses not to go, I'd kiss him and tell him I love him as I walk out the door with my kids.
2006-09-07 06:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Laurel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not let this go. I would definitely push on this one. If he is home and not working on the day of their open house, he should be there supporting them and YOU! By choosing to watch TV instead of go to their open house, he is choosing football over them. Is football really more important than his kids?? That is terrible. I wouldn't stand for it. Stick to your guns, honey!
2006-09-07 06:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by cyndi71mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have bigger issues than just a Football game/open house. I would fight it and address your other issues with him as well. If you are not prepared to do that then let it go even though you are right and he is selfish.
2006-09-07 06:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by K B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not record it (if you have a VCR or TiVo)? That way everyone wins. He can watch the game after the open house. I love football, but I would never miss any of my kids school or sports events because of it.
2006-09-07 06:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋