I live in a small town. I went to the doctor at 4:30pm with the bleeding. they examined me and the baby was fine . they didn't know where the blood was coming from and my doctor would not come. they sent me home at 8:00pm. I came back at 10:00pm and he still would not come to examine me. He came in at 7:30am to check me and he told me i had dialated 5cm and he could not send me to a better hospital to where my baby could survive. so i gave birth to my baby on 8/31/06 and gave him a funeral on 9/3/06. I feel that if he would have came to the hospital to check on me himself they could have sent me to the better hospital in time. I don't know what to do.
2006-09-07 05:54:37 · 15 answers · asked by rqhall74 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I think they should give you something because that's very emotional.
2006-09-07 05:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by power of 3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG, i wold not listened to him if I was you, i would have called 911 or something. Bleeding that far along, im 21 weeks now, would scare the **** out of me and i would demand someone examine me.
You need to report his ***, no doctor around here that i know would do that. I would have freaked out and not left the hospital til something was resloved or someone came to examine me.
This does not sound like a good doctor. You were bleeding for gods sake and nothing was done til morning. WTF.
They was a chance to save your baby, here in this book i have A Child Is Born, it says, "Today there are children who have survived and developed normally who were born as early as week 23."
Survival Rates
Week 23 - 44%
Week 24 - 63%
Week 25 - 75%
Week 26 - 81%
Week 27 - 88%
Week 28 - >90%
I wouldnt go to him anymore and i would report him. When i had my first miscarriage, they told me to come in ASAP and examined me and did an ultrasound. What he did is NOT RIGHT
2006-09-07 06:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by feel_n_learn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scream MALPRACTICE. He had no excuse not to come check on you and he still did not. You lost your baby because he didn't feel like it. Excuse my language, but what an a** hole!!!!!! I would have his freaking job! you need to get a lawyer. Most any doctor will tell you if there is any kind of bleeding that you need to be admitted to the hospital with constant fetal monitoring. He simply did not feel like coming up to the hospital and by the time he did decide to, it was too late to save the baby. You never should have had to go through that and I know a few doctors that would agree with me.
2006-09-07 06:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by littlemiss4705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I am deeply sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.
Secondly, go to a doctor other than the one who delivered your baby for something for the depression- I know the feeling.
What's really coincidental is that your baby's birthday was/is the same as my daughter's, only two years ago. I gave her up on Sept. 3, 2004.
It's really weird for hospital officials to send someone home who is hemorraging. I'd definitley get a lawyer and file a lawsuit for wrongful death and medical neglect.
Again, very sorry for your loss. The Lord works in mysterious ways.
2006-09-07 06:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Renee25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of any legal advice to give you other than call an attorney and go from there you may have a case.Which that is not the hardest part to deal with at this time you need to work on healing emotionally and physically.I am so sorry this happened to you and your baby.I would definatly seek counseling and maybe get something for depression just until you start to feel better after you have been to counseling for a while.I don't recommend staying on any kind of depression meds and being dependant on them for the rest of your life.I hope everything works out for you and you feel better soon.remember depression meds are only a temporary fix to any problem you have to work on it within yourself.good luck
2006-09-07 06:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my baby girl on 8/10(20 weeks old) and also gave her a funeral a week later. I have incompetent cervix and also was given a cerclage but I went into pre term delivery, you might also have an incompetent cervix. Theres a great website to visit its-http://www.geocities.com/incompetentcervix/index.html
and also- http://www.missfoundation.org/
I feel for you and in time you will be able to heal but please do some research and find a better doctor. Good luck and dont give up.
2006-09-07 06:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by Uma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just made my eyes well up. I'm really sorry to hear that, I couldn't imagine how that would feel.
You should first of all go to counseling, alone and with your husband.
I suggest you get a great attorney, you won't have to pay a dime upfront, because your case against both the hospital and the doctor is so strong. You are entitled to pain and suffering, compensation of all medical bills pertaining to this, and attorneys fees.
And at the very least this POS doctor should lose his license.
Once again I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-09-07 06:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all...I am so sorry. I have a friend that went through the same exact thing and I advised her to get legal advice because I'm sorry but that is bull. Didn't the nurses check you? You obviously went into preterm labor at some point. I would look into getting a lawyer...this is your baby were talking about. You deserve better and you have rights
2006-09-07 06:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. i have to say this to you because the same it happen to me but i was pregnant with twins and only one made it here and know i look at my little boy and think if his twin would be like him and look like him I'm sad about this but then i have to move on . i gave him a name and i wrote a poem and it helps a little and the pain will never go away you get have to think of it this way god need your child up there for now and when god is ready he will give you what he thinks you need . i hope this helps you in your time of loss . get attorney .
2006-09-07 06:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet if you asked your Doctor they would give you something. It is hard to loose a child. You have a long road of emotions to go through. Good luck and just remember that everything happens for a reason. If you do need something make sure you get it.
2006-09-07 06:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a new doctor and a good attorney. Call your insurance company for referals to a good therapist and a psychiatrist for medication. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this because of medical neglect.
2006-09-07 05:58:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋