ok, so my best friend since 2nd grade moved in my parents house with me, her and I get along fine, she is like my sister and everything and she got a really good job and whatnot. the problem is, she leaves and doesnt come home till 7:30 the next morning and then is sluggish at work and keeps getting talked to about her being tired almost everyday to work. I have talked to her about this and told her she needs to start comming home by atleast 1 or 1:30 bc she has to be a work by 8:30 and my parents are becomming upset bc they feel like she is pretty much useing them..now since I have talked to her and she hasnt listened, I dont know whatelse to do!! so what do you guys think?? what should I do?? I really dont want to kick her out bc she moved in bc her parents wont let her back in to the house and she had nowhere else to go that was a stable place.
2006-09-07 05:43:57 · 10 answers · asked by luvme6448 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
leave her alone.
2006-09-07 05:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like her parents got tired of dealing with this issue also.
You stated you have tryed to speak with her on the issue and she has not listened.
So what is the issue ? Your friend is not willing ot settle down her night life and come home at a decent hour to rest up before work and now it is placing a wedge between you and your parents.
Whats the problem ? Kick her out , she needs her own place PERIOD that way its ok for her to do her thing.Why allow someone to use you and your paretns ? She shows no respect for you or them and she is basicly saying screw you witch .Its my life - I do as I please ... so let her but not in your parents home .
2006-09-07 05:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your parents are good people, but she isn't interested in stability. She's interested in laying up. She has a good job, but has she offered or is she paying rent? Why does she think she can live in SOMEONE ELSE'S home, but not live by their rules? If she's that grown, she needs her own place. You can be friends with someone your whole life and not really KNOW them until you live with them. If she's so determined to risk her job, her shelter, and her best friend for all the tricking off she's clearly more interested in doing-throw your hands up, throw her *** out and let her find out the hard way that inconsideration and irresponsibility come with a price! GOD Bless you and your folks for trying & Good Luck!!
2006-09-07 05:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like her parents kicked her out for a reason! I've been through it so I know. She might be on drugs and need help. Don't let her down when she needs you, but don't let her use you. If I were you, I'd tell her to shape up or ship out quite frankly. If she gets kicked out of your house, she might end up with some guy she shouldn't be with. Sit her down and tell her what's on your mind, but try to be understanding at the same time. If she still doesn't listen, she might need to learn the hard way!
2006-09-07 05:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by JULES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's your best friend, you've spoken to her, let her know that her actions are putting you in a bad position, but that you also still care about her.
She still acts the way she wants, not how she should act in another person's home, and just seems to be ignoring the things you say to her.
Let her know that you are concerned for her, ask if she'd like to talk about it, or if she needs any help with anything.
If she still keeps up and making mistakes, let her go, she's an adult and is responsible for her own actions. It doesn't mean that you love her any less, it means that she's making bad choices and doesn't recognize it, maybe she needs to make her mistakes before she realizes that she's making them.
2006-09-07 05:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to respect your parents home and come home at a respectable hour or move out. I say you have your mom sit down and talk with her and tell her she has rules just like you do and if she cant live by them, then she needs to pack her shiznit and go.
2006-09-07 05:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if no one else wants her then that's the problem. She is no good and doesn't listen so just tell her to if she can change her ways and if not she is out of here, but really don't kick her out.
2006-09-07 05:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by goof ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one she needs to respect your parents regardless of her age, she need to get it together because the route she going she will end up being homeless give her a final warning and if she doesn't comply, ADIOS!
2006-09-07 05:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently her own parent's didn't want to deal with this crap. She isn't going to change, and your parents need to set down the same rules with her that they would with any of their own children living under their roof.
2006-09-07 05:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make sure she know's that your parents will only take this behavior for so long then she will be asked to leave
2006-09-07 05:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋