i have been with this guy he was 35 and we had fun and i kept being told by my best friend that i need to be with someone near my own age and that i am degrading myself.....(BY THE WAY IM 25)so anyways i met a guy off myspace and he was nice on the phone and we met about 2 weeks after knowing each other.... well he ended up not liking me and that was fine.... well then while i had talked to this guy i had been talking to another one on myspace and getting to know him.... well i met him and he took me out for my birthday to applebees and that well i decided the day after i met him that i would stay over at his house...well since i have been with this guy now dating him for 7 days my best friend has been nothing but negative about this guy and i don't know what to do ???? she says she is just looking out for me and that she is only doing it for my own welfare is she ???? but u know i am 25 and i told her that she need to let me live my own life and let me live and learn from my mistakes.
2006-09-07 05:41:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
what should i do about my friend????? i love her to death and she keeps saying that this relationship is going to ruin our friendship... but it isn't he is fine with her just the fact that he doesn't like is the fact it seems like she is doing everything in the book to break us up!!!!!! please help i don't know what i should i do????? should i listen to her and break up with him and find somoene else? but this guy is real nice and he seems to be into me like i am him....
please help me
2006-09-07 05:44:24 · update #1
the 35 yr old guy is out of the pic now.... now i am with the guy from myspace and that is the one she is trying to break up......
2006-09-07 05:46:47 · update #2
the internet guy is 26 and i am 25.... so there is only a year between us.... sorry u guys misunderstood
2006-09-07 05:49:07 · update #3
my best friend she has 3 kids and the youngest baby daddy and her are together.... i don't like him i told her that and he treats her like crap doesn't do nothing for the baby and she still stays with him.... she keeps throwing up in my face that she has been with him a year and a half and they have a baby together.... she doesn't listen to me.....
2006-09-07 05:55:34 · update #4
You need to stop being so concerned about what other people think. It is always good to listen to people who can give you specific reasons why you shouldn't date someone but once they have given those reasons then it is up to you what you want to do. After that if they are really your friend they will support your choice. Seems like you probably gave up a great older guy for no reason and now your letting your friend destroy another relationship. Seems to me that isn't a friend. A friend tells you how they feel but also respects your choices and doesn't try to run your life.
2006-09-07 05:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will come and go, but friends will be there for you no matter what. You shouldn't jeopardize your friendship for "just another guy." Maybe try seeing things from your friend's point of view will help you see what she is trying to tell you. Friends are there to help you out when you need advise, but you don't always have to take it. You make your own choices and have to live with the outcome. Losing a friend is hardly worth "just another guy."
2006-09-07 12:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by AB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend needs to focus on her own life and get her nose out of yours. If she is a true friend she will do nothing but support your decisions and be there if it does go wrong and be happy for you if it goes great. Is she perhaps a little bit jealous of your dating success, does she have a man in her life. This could be a reason for her negativity. You need to talk to her because an unsupportive and discouraging friend is no friend at all.
2006-09-07 12:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its true you need to learn from your own mistakes. but your friend is just looking out for you. try thinking about it from her point of view. her friend just met some guy, over the internet, and has already stayed at his house and he is 10 years older than her. if you had a kid who was, thats say, 16, would you let her go with a 26 year old. NO. she is just looking out for you
2006-09-07 12:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by jess08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your friend is probably worried about you hooking up w/someone after only knowing them for one day. (BTW "dating for 7 days.".. are you 12??)
You seem like you fall for people to quickly and even though you do need to learn from your own mistakes, it never hurts to be a little cautious and maybe take things a little slower.
When your friend tries to give you advice, just tell her you appreciate what she is saying and you will consider what she is saying, but, it is ultimately your decision on what you are going to do with your life.
2006-09-07 12:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by whaaatthe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's tuff for a friend. IS she jealous? Is your friend married? My friend would say what she had to say and that was it. It really didn't affect our relationship. She didn't like it and I knew she didn't like it but that was it. I would stop bringing his name up to her. She probably doesn't want to hear about him. Good Luck and I hope it all works out in the end.
2006-09-07 12:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on really what you thinkin you're doin????no matter how much she cares about you or likes you she's not gonna be any help...we have something up there which called brain and i think we need to use that...well you can tell her that yeah you're right but do whatever you want to and you think is right...if you wanna listen to friends and ppl around you i bet you'll end up so lonely or lying down somewhere dead....
goodluck
2006-09-07 12:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by CherOkeeGurL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too dependent on what your friend thinks of you. Tell her to live her own life if she has one and let you make your own mistakes.
2006-09-07 12:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with age gap. it matters with love and affection.
2006-09-07 12:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-07 12:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋