When I ask him " why" he simply says" cuz I'm not into it right now"....
2006-09-07 05:38:03 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And when he wants sex, i never said no
2006-09-07 05:50:34 · update #1
It depends how often he refuses your request. If it is occasionally let it go do not make big fuss about it. If it happens most of the time,I think that you are describing a conditions known as Inhibited sexual desire (ISD). The person with ISD fails to initiate or respond to their partner's desire for sexual activity.
Sometimes, rather than being inhibited, there may simply be a discrepancy in sexual interest levels between two partners, both of whom have interest levels within the normal range.
Occasionally, someone may claim that his or her partner has ISD, when in fact they, them self, have hyperactive sexual desire and are very demanding sexually.
ISD is a very common sexual disorder. The most common cause of ISD seems to be relationship problems wherein one partner does not feel emotionally intimate or close to their mate.
Communication problems, health problems such as depression, insomnia, excessive stress.
Treatment is required by the professional therapist and it depends on the eliminating causes listed above.
2006-09-07 05:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be offened but yes being rejected hurts so don't set yourself up to fall! Don't ask him for sex as often back off a bit and he'll wonder whats up! Start telling him no when he wants it so that he knows how that feels also explain to him that you don't feel that it is right that you never say no to him but he says no to you to often, have a no say no rule - have fun with it! Also when he says no, you can try telling him that if you can get him up and in the mood then he's got to give it up! Make a playful game out of his rejection don't be hurt he really isn't trying to hurt you when he says no it measn that he is either too tired or has too much on his mind to be any good at it... Some day you may find that there are days you just aren't in the mood and we hope he understands as well...
2006-09-07 06:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be some what concerned if that is the only answer he can give. It is important for a person to know what is going on and why now is not a good time. If a person is overly tired, sick, or stressed then don't be offended. However, if he isn't in the mood because he is watching tv or playing games then yes you should be offended and kick him to the curb.
2006-09-07 05:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get offended, I think you should ask yourself why you get offended? Also, you should look at when you ask. It could be at a bad time like he might be tired. But most guys though when asked by their significant other would give it up in a heart beat. There could be some reason why he is saying no. Ask him why he's not into it. Seek a middle ground. don't try to get your way cause all you are going to do is make him mad and he will feel like you don't respect his wishes. Good luck.
2006-09-07 05:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by mtv8r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay not sure why is says he is not into it now. 99.9% of men are never out of the mood.
You need to know why he is not in the mood. To tell you I am not into it right now is not any kind of answer. It is like he is brushing you off with a non answer. Talk to him and see why he is not into it. Don't start saying well I have sex with you when I not in the mood. All that statement does is bash the other.
Talk and communicate about it.
If all Else fails try to kill him sexually. I am sure he will be over joyed with your effort.
2006-09-07 06:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he's just not ready or if ya'll done it before maybe he's just not wanting to do it again. try to appeal to his masculine side. wear something sexy or do something you know will turn him on. if he still doesn't want to do it then there may be another reason. talk to him about and ask if you appeal to him or if you turn him off in some way so you can fix the problem. don't give up! he'll come around once he sees how much you want him and maybe try to back off a bit . you might be coming on to strong and that's a turn-off for some guys. they like a challenge and if you're too easy then it takes all the fun out of it for then. take your time and good luck. god bless!
2006-09-07 05:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't be offended I've been married for 4 years and sometimes he says no it doesn't mean he loves you any less just means he isn't in the mood or he's tired men get wore out too from sex
2006-09-07 06:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there ever times that you are not into it? If he does this all the time I would wonder if there was a problem. But if on occasion he's just not into it try not to let it bother you. If you are like me though you probally take it as rejection. I want to analyze the situation and make it so much bigger than it really is! It's not always about me, I have learned that! So if it's not a regular thing don't take it to heart!
2006-09-07 05:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be offended. It's a myth that all men are "good to go" every moment of their lives.
When you aren't really into it, you should say no, too, BTW.
No one should have sex out of obligation. It's bad for the relationship. And sex is more fun when you both want it.
2006-09-07 07:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens to me sometimes too and he tells me b/c we have the rest of our lives to make love... But I don't think so i think he's hiding something or he played around with himself all day now he has no energy for me type thing. But yes i would be offended only because i always get what i want and for me not to have it something is wrong. Especially if he wants it and i give it to him.
2006-09-07 05:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋