Why is everyone on her so harsh? Are you all perfect? Have you NEVER lied, NEVER did something you regretted? Do you really think you have the right to judge people so harshly? Please, we're all human, and we all make mistakes. He cheats, she cheats, they both lie, ok, I agree it sucks and none of us want to be in that situation but until you have you really have no right to bash someone else. Even though cheating wasn't on my laundry list of problems, Ive had enough to realize that judging someone else isn't my place unless I want them to take a long hard look at me. There have been times when on the surface of things I have seemed, cold, rude, even looked like a bad mother, but unless you knew what was happening on the inside that was all you could see. I don't want people judging me on my "surface" so don't you think it would be better if we tried not to do that to people we never even laid eyes on?
2006-09-07 05:15:21 · 38 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A girl to my own heart, thankyou Sasha I think it the way you do, though I don't think I could put it to words half as well.
From some of the hypocritical judjments I see in here it sometimes makes me wonder if maybe God has hundreds of accounts in different names on answers and too much spare time.
Thanks for putting it into words for all to see.
2006-09-07 05:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are coming here, a public, world wide message board and asking for advice. Yes, some people can be rude or heartless. Thats what you can get when you ask about personal problems here. But the truth of the matter is, people looking for answers can find them in the oddest responses. Maybe some people do actually need that "slap in the face" kinda answer. Im not trying to make excuses for inconsideration, Im just saying everyone is different with different opinions. And when you get 50 people answering your question, your probably gonna get 50 different kinds of answers. We need to accept the bad along with the good. Take the advice that we feel makes the most sense for our situation, and move on.
2006-09-07 05:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you... You can't judge anything or anyone by external appearances without knowing all the facts. But you have to agree that sometimes these questions here seem like, Duh, why are you even asking? "He cheated on me before and after we got married, it hurts every time, he lies every day, should I leave?" Kinda asking for it, I'd say. If one truly wants a good advice, Yahoo answers isn't the place to go - turning to a trusted friend who is sympathetic and aware of your situation would be much more useful. I'm sure that most people who post judgemental comments feel the same way you do in real life... But it's kind of hard to be giving insightful answers to dumb questions.
2006-09-07 05:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, never had regretted anything I've done because I've never done anything to cause myself to regret. I've never cheated on a partner, never lied to them. There is no reason to lie or cheat on someone you love IF you truly love them. Saying you love someone doesn't make it so. I've been in some terrible situations, some that have threatened my life and that is what I base my OPINIONS on. If I feel that someone has really no clue I'm going to tell them so. When you come to an "answer" board you are going to get all sorts of opinions based upon other's expierences. If you don't want certain kinds of answers then maybe you should hunt for a total support board rather than a basic "answer" board.
2006-09-07 05:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you're on the relative anonymity of the internet when you pose questions here.
This means that no one answering you has anything to go on except for the paragraph (or less) that they see on their screen, and that knowing the real you, the complete you, is truly impossible.
This also means that folks have a forum to say all of the mean-spirited things that they normally think to themselves, because they don't have to look anyone in the eye and know how bad the recipient of their sarcasm/flippant attitude/anger/disgust feels when they hear that stuff.
Not that any of that is OK to do, but that's why it happens. Fear not, Karma will get them for it. I'm sorry anyone was mean to you.
2006-09-07 05:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cincinnati Food and Wine Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was written for someone important to you to read ...Why don't you fine tune it and give it to that person, or talk to them in a way you never have before
Good luck because I am reading a hurt in need of help
And if you really what to get to the bottom of this issue talk to a professional like a Pastor or other professional they will help so much
2006-09-07 05:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you are right in some ways but when you put your dirty laundry out there except to get some good feed back and some negative its just like going on a talk show and telling all your business they mark rude remarks there as well as here so if you want advice be prepared for the results or try to work it out by yourself
2006-09-07 05:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one here is being harsh....this is a Q & A forum.
People ARE ASKING other people's opinions and for advise! Sorry if it isn't always sugar coated.
No, no one nor I are perfect but geez, of COURSE I would come down on liars, cheaters and dead beat parents...THERE ARE STILL PEOPLE WITH SOME MORAL VALUES LEFT IN THIS WORLD!!!!!
If people DO not want advise, then DON'T ASK!
2006-09-07 05:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I answer questions as i see fit. If you post something here i try to give my honest opinion. I'm not saying i'm perfect no one is but GOD. I'm far from that but I like to think that my response has a good effect on someone that they actully took it into consideration and thought of changing their lives for the better and not worse.
2006-09-07 05:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure that people are really harsh, and unemotional, when concerning others and others problems. have you ever heard of the saying 'do as i say not as i do' well thats how i think some of these people are. they have been there and done what you did.
i guess what i am trying to say, is i wont judge you, and i am sorry for the people treating you so bad.
2006-09-07 05:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋