He tells me no, or i don't know. But then when his friend (thats a guy) asks him to go do something he'll jump right up and go. and everytime my boyfriend asks me if I want to go somewhere I always say sure.. but then his friend is with us also.. All he ever wants to do anymore is spend time with his friend and online playin poker. I have tried to talk to him about it and all I get is.. oh stop. I know he's not cheatin on me and I know he never will. I have been with him for 2 years and it feels like he just want to be with me anymore.. idk what to do..
2006-09-07 04:58:52 · 11 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has been like this for the past 6 months. I just can't take it anymore. I love him to death. I want to spend my life with him. but I just don't know how much more I can take.
2006-09-07 05:04:57 · update #1
Sounds to me like the new has just worn off and things have just gotten comfortable. It happens to all couples. It's not that you don't love each other, or don't want to be together, or that you even want someone else, it's just that it's familiar. You need to do something to spice it up, keep it interesting all the time.
2006-09-07 05:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has lost interest in you. If it's not there anymore it's just not there. Don't beat yourself about it and don't blame yourself. If you know that you haven't done anything wrong, then leave it along; you'll have a clear conscious. You say you that you love him, but do you love you? Loving yourself means being able to walk away and turn around from a situation where you are being harmed. You are getting harmed emotionally b/c you are giving so much and getting nothing back in return. Love him enough to let him go. You both will enjoy life better. If he's not interested nothing you do will make him stay. How old are the two of you by the way? Life is too short sweetie. Enjoy yourself, do something for you. Treat yourself. Use that time and energy to do somethings that you enjoy. Focus on you now and wait before getting into another relationship.
2006-09-07 12:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell if perhaps he's just bored or if maybe you're doing some wishful thinking that there is no hanky panky going on!
On the other hand, maybe he's just so comfortable and able to treat you like a worn out shoe, you don't seem to do things on your own much. If it's a matter of taking you for granted, maybe you need to up the ante - make plans with friends, go out, enjoy yourself.
If he really cares, he'll get the message!
2006-09-07 12:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ilsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be bored. Are you asking him to do the same things over and over again? Or you might embarrass him without even realizing that you do it. Like when my husband and I go to the store if someone runs in to us with their buggy and doesn't say excuse me or sorry or something I will say it for them loud enough so that they can hear and then say oh no sir or ma'am it's fine it was an accident. My husband will walk off like he doesn't know me. Or if I kiss him in the middle of the store he will turn red as hell and then walk off. You could just either ask him again what the problem is or give him a taste of his own medicine. Stop asking him to go with you to places. Just let him know that you are going to such and such and you will be back later. Then if he asks you to go somewhere tell him no I think I will... whatever. Soon he will start thinking that you don't want to go anywhere with him and start wondering what is wrong with him. Then one day when you say I am going to such and such he will bluntly invite himself to see what you say and why you didn't ask him in the first place.
2006-09-07 12:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by strawberries_r_cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. see this is a tough one because alot and i do mean a lot of guys have this problem where they wanna spend more time with their guy friends then their girl friends. the best solution i would say is to sit hI'm down and tell him exactly how u feel let him know how it makes you feel when he asks as if he doesn't want to spend time with you let him know that if he feels like he doesn't have time for you then maybe he doesn't need to be with you b/c im a female i feel your pain b/c i had bf like that and when i sat him down it got thur his head darts my best advice if he still doesn't show him the affection u r looking for then let him know u can't deal with n e more
2006-09-07 12:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jasona j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude, but check out the book "He's Just Not That Into You". That book was written and also used as a line in Sex and The City. It is totally insitful and puts major perspective on things. If he REALLY wants to be with you, he will be and will hate when he isn't. He won't like to do things so much without you.
2006-09-07 12:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by lynswil_25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your boyfriend takes you for granted, whether or not he knows is a different question i suggest telling him that you want some private time say a date every friday night or so.If he continues to do what hes doing dont be afraid to take responsibility "sometimes love can blind people from the truth" please remember that a relationship is a two way path if he doesnt pull up his standards he obviously doesnt love you anymore take care and keep with you this WOMEN HAVE AS MUCH RIGHTS AS MEN
2006-09-07 12:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by peta c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't value you or spending time with you? Move on - he's just not that into you.
2006-09-07 12:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just has the need to be his self instead of your boyfriend. it happens to a lot of people. i wouldn't worry. be patient and he will come back around. give him time.
2006-09-07 12:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by ny_butterfly_princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you guys need time alone to do something if he won't than leave him.
2006-09-07 12:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋