My marriage of 8 years has dwindled into just a mere friendship. We both are going through the motions of a married couple. We have two young girls. We have been living sererate for 5 months to work on things and haven't worked on one thing. The problem is that we just never took the time to stay in love with each other. We never made it a priority. We both wish we had. We get along great but... we are not in love and it almost seems like we have been apart so long emotionally that everything we try does not work. We tried concelling. Do we just need to step up to the plate and divorce? I think neither one of us wants to initate it but we both know it is inevidable.
2006-09-07 04:52:25 · 11 answers · asked by lookingforanswers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are sure that the love is gone then the only fair thing to do is divorce. If you don't, then you both will spend the rest of your lives searching for something that isn't there.
Your children will soon enough realize that the feelings that should be there are not and it will effect them as well as the two of you.
Nothing says you two cannot stay friends after the divorce. One of my best friends is an ex boyfriend. The reason we broke up was because we realized that friendship was all we really had after a long term relationship. I am now married with a family, but I keep close contact with him and we will have a close friendship till the end of time.
Good luck....I'm sure it will all work itself out in the end
2006-09-07 05:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by trgger23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what you want and need. It sounds like you have both made up your minds. Are you afraid to divorce for fear of hurting the other? I love that you can get along and be friends tho. That is great for your children. Do what will make you both happy in the long run. Good luck!
2006-09-07 11:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not in love with each other. You're just friends. It's time to end the marriage and get on with your lives. By remaining friends, at least you'll be able to raise your two girls without any bitterness or fighting and they'll grow up respecting you both.
2006-09-07 12:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by pigironsgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in too big of a hurry. You're friends after all, and that's a whole lot more than some couples can say. If it can be made to work, you need to for the sake of the girls. If there is NO way, then, one of you needs to step up...just don't be too hasty. Best of luck to you!
2006-09-07 12:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you have to find the spark. Some Sparks need a jump start. It's real hard to find a good man and a good women. If you both want the same. I say try one last time to jump start that flame. Fires have to be papmered to keep lite.. Sometimes you just have to find the right wood to flame the fire. If you cant find it then i'd say move on life is to short...
2006-09-07 11:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already made your decision. You just need to do what you have to do. You have to be happy, and move on with your life. Be thankful that you do get along with each other that will go long way in the end.
2006-09-07 11:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step in fixing your relationship is to "close all exits." That means consider divorce not an option, then you can begin to work on things.
2006-09-07 12:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a hard decision to make but only you can decide. We all have to make decisions not knowing if its right or wrong. Hopefully, it will be the right decision for you. Good luck and take care.
2006-09-07 12:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my opinion if you still both love each other, why not try to go to counseling and see if that helps before you both just decided to end it that quickly.
2006-09-07 11:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man! i know your pain i'am in the same boat! Dam you are living my life.we haven't worked on one thing...We have to do it....i hope you fine Peace..let me know what you are go to do...
2006-09-07 11:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by St Julious B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋