I mean I would.. but how do you know she will.. ? Can you seriously just ask? what if she thinks your a perv and dumps you? what if she loves it secretly?
2006-09-07 04:48:27 · 25 answers · asked by sharper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh - yes she is a girlfriend not some random btw. Make that clear! I am totally respectful of wants and needs and don't want to offend obviously. Not sure about asking if she has before as I don't want to know how much fun it was, or if she has, and it was rubbish. I mean what do you say to that ' come on love, it would be great with me' I can appreciate the apprehension aswell but I sercretly reckon she would. Not going there till the green light shows though. less she asks :-) Oh and Mr First answer dude.. I am not gay you prehistoric homo phobe, I love her dearly, Its called active sex life. Try it when you grow up.
2006-09-07 05:05:21 · update #1
try the line " wow we have discussed everything we are so close oh except the un mentionable!!" she be like " well whats that then" and u go " oh u know anal the guys at work were talking about it" and she be " oh really and ......." and u go " was jus thinking i dont know what u think about it and i know everything else about u dont i baby so whats your take on it" trust my boyf got me with that line worked like a charm jus a casual conversation followed bout anal sex was weird but good to get it out in the open and no we didnt do it. good luck matey ( but i am still with him and love him loads )
2006-09-07 09:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her about it, but not right up front. My ex-gf once said that she'd never do it. Then once when I was performing oral sex on her I moved down and started licking around that area. Then a few weeks later I gently used my figner all around the outside of the area... a little while later inserted a finger while performing oral sex. THEN (since she had seemed to like all of the "build up") I asked her again and she said she'd try it, and she liked it (eventually -- said it was uncomfortable at first). Good luck!
2006-09-07 12:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by rd211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never ever asked!
I just started doing it nicely...after lots of foreplay, insterted first finger slowly...then lubing with saliva, then more fingering, and then the actual deed......if the girl moved away at any stage, then I did not push the issue further on that time. I tried it again the follwoing times, where I left it. I have yet to be unsuccesful!
2006-09-07 11:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definately ASK her! Don't just do it. Girls feel violated too and after doing something like that that she may not approve of, she might be turned off to have sex with you period. If you are willing to have sex, in any way, and if you are mature enough then you should be able to talk about it. If you can't, you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.
Good Luck
2006-09-07 11:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by lynswil_25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just Say Politely: Honey may I ask you a question? How do you feel about **** sex. If she says no way, present that you needed to know because you're not into it either. Then if she says she loves it then present the answer well how glad she is. BUT NEVER FORCE IT! You will sink like the Titanic!
2006-09-07 11:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by marie1257 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd start by asking her if she has any sexual fantasies or desires that she would like to tell you about. It's a good thing to learn about her anyway. After you learn about her, just say this ............
"I'd really like to try anal sex with you. I'll be very gentle and I'll slow down or stop whenever you want. If it turns out that you don't want to do it again, that's cool."
2006-09-07 12:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm assuming this is your girlfriend - it's not really a first date thing (unless she suggests it!)... While you're in the area, try wandering your finger in that direction - you'll know from her reaction if she thinks it's a good idea or not. Or you could just ask her of course....
2006-09-07 11:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest: Ask her have you ever? Would you liek to? Bring up fantasies, talk about your fantasies, yours and HERS and tell her that is one of yours. See how she responds. If done slow and with someone you trust to stop if it hurts it is not that bad.AND trust me I was SURPRISED to find out that.I was terrified to try, liek I think most women are. But I trust my husband and that is what the deciding factor really was.
2006-09-07 11:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wach a show that may talk about it (Dr. Drew, Lucky Louie) or find a magazine article and use it to bring up the subject casually.
2006-09-07 11:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say how great your previous girl was in bed. If your current girl agrees, you must take things SLOWLY, or you will get nowhere.
2006-09-07 11:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋