Hi, I have been dating a musilm man for about two years now and I love him alot. He is from pakistan and I am from the US but we met in college. I am confused beause I would like to marry him but I am afraid of his family because all of them are muslims as well. How can our relationship work out. I feel like I cant live without this guy and he feels the same(so he tells me). We have broken up once b4 because he said it would be too difficult for me but I disagree. I would do anything for him but my religion like his is very important to him. Is it possible to raise a healthy family with two religions or should we just go our seperate ways? Please help
2006-09-07 04:44:33 · 14 answers · asked by duddie02 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, don't go your separate ways. You love each other and you can work this out. I know because I, too have feelings for a man who is from Pakistan. I have a friend who is Seventh Day Adventist and her husband is Baptist and they have 3 children together. The children are being raised SDA, but it works for them. They are doing great....when there's love, anything is possible. Don't give up....reach for your dream....good luck.
2006-09-07 04:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you that much... then religion is no barrier.. All religion teaches love..
I am not a muslim,, I am a catholic but be open minded.. It is your love that will bind you together and not the religion of each other.. However, make sure, and make it clear to him that you want to stay as a christian even after you get maried and vice versa.. That is if you want to be a christian..
As for me there is nothing wrong with being converted to muslim... It is only skin deep.. what is important here is your conviction, your love for each other..
Maybe it will also be good if you will let him read all of the answers here, so that he can open up his mind.
The only problem I can see so far is that, they can marry up to 7 times,, even if you are his first wife... But if you know and you will let him.. You have the total control over all the other wives...
That is if you can keep on to that.. And just in case, he will as you he is marrying another woman..
The quoran dictates that they marry only women who are widowed. and not single ladies, they want to..
Study the religion and there is nothing wrong with that.
Good luck and God Bless
2006-09-07 11:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by yulnores 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest looking into the Muslim religion before you decide to marry this man. Eventually he will try to persuade you to become Muslim. The Muslim religion is an old testement religion, and christians are a new testement belief. Most of the fighting in the middle east, if not all of it, is due to religion, mostly Muslim. It is in their hearts to destroy Christians. I would really recommend that you educate yourself on the Muslim beliefs.
2006-09-07 11:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Amy P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read a book by the name of Jumping Off i can't remember the author but i know a woman wrote it. It's about people dealing with different relationships in their life. There is a woman in that book who went through the same thing that you are going through the same thing. Maybe it would help you. Good Luck!!
2006-09-07 12:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by trini_rocker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit Pakistan with or without him. See if you like the culture and religion. Then, you can decide to convert to Islam and marry him. If you cannot make it to Pakistan, come to Hamtramck, Michigan.
At least learn about the politics of Pakistan. Discuss things other than romance with your boyfriend, like how to raise children, finance, friends, education and his obligation to his family.
Learn about taqiyah. According to Dr. Phares, It is done to prevent the new converts from seeing the real face of Islam; at least until their faith or mental conditioning is strong enough to make them turn against their own country and people.
See this video on Youtube, The truth about Islam from an ex-Muslim lady:
http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=Truth+about+islam+from+an+ex-muslim+lady
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2006-09-10 20:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont give up someone you love for religion. It is possible to have a healty life together even if you have different religions.. If you love for each other is strong enough it will with stand anything.. good luck
2006-09-07 12:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by chick29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a recipe for disaster! I cant help but think about the movie "Not without my daughter" with Sally Field. I think ultimately, muslims are conditioned to consider women as "less than". You may be happy with him now, but thats probably because you are not his property yet, and are still independant. I think that eventually the true nature of his muslim background will surface and take over. And it will be then that your needs will have absolutely no barring what so ever.
Get out now girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 11:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by beckyemtchick 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My aunt was married to a muslim man. There were alot of things she had to get used to. She also had to convert to islam. However after 5 years of marriage her husband went to pakistan and got himself another wife and its really not working out for them anymore. My aunt married him in pakistan too and she does not have any prove of her marriage to him.
you also need to make sure he is not just using you to get a green card for this country. Once he gets it he WILL leave you.
Please be careful...you need to leave now...and when he tell you it will be hard for you....he knows it will...because he alone knows whats gonna make things hard for you.
I am sure you can find someone else....get out now rather than later....the more time you spend with him the more you'll want to be with him and the more the likelihood of you getting hurt in the future.
2006-09-07 11:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
One of you should convert or just accept the other the way he/she is. I am raised strict Catholic and my husband is atheist but we get along fine, as long as he respect my belief in God, and I can respect that he doesn't believe in one. We plan to raise our kids by letting them choose what religion they want, and let them decide if they want to believe in God or not...
2006-09-07 12:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rellilgion should have nothing to do with it-I"m a christian(so
is my name),i married a turkish girl 10 years ago,we have
2 children together-divorsed today,but relligion,fanatisme,
or other stupid problems dont belong in todays society,if the
pakistanies dont like that,then maybe they should go back
to their native origen,were they can practise their belives.......
2006-09-07 12:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by christian 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋