Should women work when their married??

Question

I'm 22 yearsold and my husband is 24 we've been married for 4 years we have 2 kids a one yearold and 2 yearold he's a hard worker he works and supports us I stay home and clean the house and take care of our children when he's off work he helps me with the chores in my opinion I believe men work and women stay home and do their duties as a wife such as taking care of the kids, cleaning house, laundry, and dishes but I think the husband should help when he's off work I think the woman's place is at home

My husband volunteers to help me when he has days off and having 2 small babies can be hard by the time he gets home from work my work is done but when he has days off he helps me I didn't mean he helps me as soon as he gets off work I mean on his days off he volunteers

My husband says I don't have to work he says all he expects from me is to take care of the home and the kids and that is what I do I do not lazy around when he's at work I cook,clean,do laundry,dishes and take care of our children i'm not being a slave I am doing my duties as a wife as well as he's doing his husband part

The man is out working his *** off all day trying to provide for his wife and family he shouldn't have to come home and do chores and i'm telling this to whoever called it being a slave it isn't being a slave it's doing your duties as a wife alot of times this is why men get tired of women cause they can't accept responsibilites in the house what their suppose to do my kids are babies still their one and two they need me right my kids are more important than a career

Melia, I'm not lazy and I didn't say I love my kids more then the women who do work I said I want to be there for them they need me I rather be home with them then take them to some day care now days you can't trust hardly anyone to watch your kids my parents are too buisy to watch them kids need their parents not no damn day care besides my husband works day till night I have to be here anyways to watch them and I love being with my kids when they get older and can helps themselves I would work till then I am here for them and by the way MELIA, TAKE YOUR *** BACK TO THE JUNGLE YOUR JUST RUNNING YOUR MOUTH CAUSE I'M WHITE P.S. THIS ISN'T A RACIAL ISSUE

Answer 1

Yes, your point of view is absolutely valid. I hope it works out well for you. Sounds like you have a very strong family going there!

Answer 2

That is completely up to you. I do think that it is a parents responsibility to raise their own children. Not grand parents or day care. I think that if more parents would take the time to raise their own kids there would be allot less behavioral issues.
I was a stay home mom for about 2 years. I couldn't handle not having adult stimuli after a while. I found a job that allows me to only work weekends. Then I decided to go back to school. I take night classes so that I can be home with my kids all day. By the time I graduate, my kids will be in school all day. My husband gets to do some bonding with them now that I am not there to distract the kids.
I don't agree that its is a Woman's Place to be at home, but if you think that is where you belong then more power to you.

Answer 3

What works for some doesn't work for others. Personally I would like to still do some work when I'm bringing up kids to utilise my university degrees and contribute to society. I don't believe my place is in the home, therefore I have no desire to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen at such a young age. I'm happy to work hard, travel, volunteer, continue with education and then settle down when I have a lot to contribute.

Answer 4

que? huh? what?!


your just lazy! You can work, clean the house, raise you kids, while married. Women do it every single day!!! Don't think cause you sit home with your kids all day that you love them more than those women that go to work.

If you really loved your husband you'd go out get a skill (having kids is not one of them) and help your husband support YOUR family. Maybe then he wouldn't have to "work his *** off". Two incomes coming in is always better than one.

God forbid this man leaves you high and dry! What are you going to do then? How are you going to support YOUR family? Stop being lazy, learn a skill and start making money...In case you have heard divorce rates are increasing every second so don't think your special.

Answer 5

No, a woman has the choice on whether or not she wants to work. And if the husband feels she should work then he really doesn't understand that taking care of children and cleaning the house is a very serious job. Sometimes it's harder than an actual job itself.

Answer 6

I agree. To bad most of the other people out there disagree. In today's society, everyone wants a big house, two cars, designer clothes, etc, etc. Have kids and let them grow up on their own, no discipline. Oh well, I miss the old days when mom was home and we had food on the table all the time and I could talk to her if I had a question or problem instead of taking all my troubles down to the corner to talk about with my buddies who know less then me.

Answer 7

most women who marry at 18 have slightly archaic views anyway...but it is up to each individual, no one can be lumped into a whole group "man"vs"woman". Maybe there is a couple out there where the father wants to be at home and does a great job at it and the woman has a great career that supports the family? The trick is to do what works best for your family and for any person who works, to try and find a balance between work and family, and for those that stay home to still maintain a sense of self and usefulness outside of cooking and cleaning

Answer 8

It really depends on your situation. I work and I'm married. If I should decide to have a child I might take some time off to be at home with the baby. My husband and I had an understanding, so if I want to stay at home with the baby I can and if I want to work that's ok too. It also depends on your financial status also. Maybe both parents need to work to support themselves and the child.

Answer 9

Well, good for you! My personal opinion is that women should lead their seperate lives and not depend on their spouse so much. I think as women we always prepare for the worse, and having their own financial stability and something to lean on is preparing for that. I have a daughter and I've been with my fiance for 3 years now. He doesn't have a problem with me working and he thinks its great that I'm so independent. It doesn't mean I don't love my family, it just means that I like not depending on anyone else...

It's only my personal opinion and I do respect the women who stay at home and raise the kids and clean the house. Its a full time job and a great one at that!

Answer 10

That's great if it works for you. But in a broader view it is situational. Some households may require additional income. When kids are older she may want to work. and so on. As far as the husband helping , It's my opinion that there is his Dept. and her Dept. Auto repair, digging a hole, repair the plumbing Him. Cook clean, laundry Her., But there are no (shoulds) It's just what works out to be fair,leaving both with some free time.

Answer 11

wow. you want it all don't you?

depending on your work experience and education you probably wouldn't make much more than the cost of paying for child care. so I see why you are staying at home. the thing is that your hubby has to fight traffic and put up with the jerks in the office all day and then fight the traffic home.

the last thing he wants ids to have two screaming kids shoved at him when he walks in the door so you can relax. or a list of chores you could have done but didn't because you wanted him to do it.

your time to rest is when you put them down for their nap. your husband needs some time off too.

as soon as the kids are in school you can go back to work.