My sister is 15 and her boyfriend is 17. A lot of people don't think it's a good idea for her to have a b/f at 15. My mom think it's okay as long as she isn't having sex and as long as he visits her at home with adults around. My dad doesn't want her to. What do you think? If this is too young how old do you think a girl she be before she dates or has a b/f??
2006-09-07 04:23:30 · 19 answers · asked by beachbum26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I really can't say because I had boyfriends at that age. As long as she realizes that she is too young for a "serious" relationship, granted it could become serious later... As long as they are on the same page. Also it also has a lot to do with how mature the both of them are.
Hope it helps.
2006-09-07 04:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, 15 is not too young to have a boyfriend. I had my first puppy love boyfriend at about 8 and that lasted until I was 10. Then I had another crush and didn't follow through. After that, there was a second boyfriend at 12. My third boyfriend showed up when I was about 14 and it was off and on with him through middle and high school. My first boyfriend showed back up when I was in college and we tried it again. I have not gone on a true date with any of these guys, having only seen them with parents around. Not even a double date or a group outing without parents. Frankly, I think there's something a bit off if a girl isn't somewhat interested in boys by 12 or 13. Group dates could be allowed by 15, if they're mature enough. A guy shouldn't be allowed to see a girl alone at first, anyway. At 16, there should be at least a couple of double dates before they can have a date alone together. Always, of course, introduce the guy to the parents until you are at least 18, and it's a nice idea to do it all your life, once you know the guy is boyfriend material. And, of course, I believe in no sex before marriage. I know it's not a popular view, but it's a good idea, anyway, preventing pregnancy and STD's. And I think couples should be tested before they begin sex anyway, whether it's before their first casual encounter or before they tie the knot. To some, these views seem strict. To others, they seem lax. Frankly, my views are mostly the middle ground and are a good set of views to express to parents as a middle ground alternative. Something to think about, right?
2006-09-07 04:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is somewhat right though. What happen if you become pregnant and stuff at a young age? It's ruins all of your teenagers fun and have to do the rights thing. Well not of all it though. Sometimes you cant go out when you want to or do things that you wants to. Believe me, having a baby is very hard work, you have to make sure you do everything right. You have take on responsible way more than you can do. You might think its really easy, its not. I thought its was, but when I gave birth to my son, i dont know what to do with my son, i was too afraid to do anything with him, needed my mom most of time until a week after i got hand of it. I have 4 1/2 months ago son and im 17 1/2. and thats young also. What happen if you ran out of formula/diaper? See its very hard. You cant do things for yourself first, your child is always first parioty. Your mother is scared of this is going to happen to her daughter. My mother was. It's okay to have a boyfriend but just don't anything with him though.
2016-03-27 01:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a father of a 21 year old daughter and she still loves me so I think I'm qualified here...
I don't think 15 is too young to have a boyfriend, but dating a 17 year old could cause some issues.
First, the parents will have to trust the standards and values they have raised their 15 year old under. But, I would also definitely lay some ground rules...
He can only visit the house when parents are home.
She can not go over to his house.
She can go to the mall, the movies, school dances with him; but I will do the driving and I WILL monitor the exits during the events.
Finally, I'll have a long and straight-to-the-point talk with this boyfriend... WHATEVER he does to my daughter, I'm going to do the same thing to him!
It worked for me.
2006-09-07 04:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only see each other at her home with adults around, no sex no kissing etc..now thats hot ! lol no no, read below
All kidding aside, seriously, my current gf and i are already adults
( i was married and divorced already ) we actually met and dated at 17 and 15 just as you guys are doing.. and we visited only with her mom present, no sex, no kisses , her mom even drove us to movies and pick us up, etc.. etc..
and we went to the prom, we even dated in our 20's for awhile ( without her moms supervision hehehe ) before our break up.
today, many many years later we're back together for the 3rd time around.. So YES it might be the start of a lifelong romantic friendship .. no guarantees , but we never know .. it could be.
So do it ! with moms supervision for now, if its meant to be it will jell into a real relation later.. and you'll already be friends
2006-09-07 04:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by billybadazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a boy friend is same as having any kind of friend if you have no sex. What is a big deal? 15might be a little bit early because he is 17. If he was 15 as well, would be better. However, parents forbidding that relationship will only make it more attractive to her.
2006-09-07 04:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by sheba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 1st bf was at 14 I don't think it's wrong to have a bf at a young age but I do think sex should definitely wait I will say when I had my bf at 14 my parents went places with us and so did my older brother and I see nothing wrong with that if I were your parents I would let you have a bf as long as you had parental guidance then at 16 you would be aloud to date
2006-09-07 04:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dad. She should be focusing on school and sports and other fun things. She would not admit to having sex with him, and don't think that doesn't go through a 17 yr old boys mind.
2006-09-07 04:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel its too young. Being someones boyfriend /girlfriend is a serious thing and dont tell me its not because if its not meant to be serious you should just be FRIENDS. It takes a deep level of maturity to be a boy/girl friend and I don't feel at the age of 15 (especially 15 year olds TODAY) you are mature enough to be a girlfriend/boyfriend. There are more things that should take precedant to a 15 year old...like grades and chores not why hasn't he/she called me bullsh*T
2006-09-07 04:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your mom seems to have the dating thing under control; my daughter is 15 and has already been through one b/f safely :-P
Tell dad to chill out and get used to the concept.
2006-09-07 04:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋