After a series of rows, my partner has told me that he needs a bit of space. He has also told me that we will work things out and we will be ok. We have been living in each others pockets recently due to me being seriously ill and him looking after me. How long would you wait?
2006-09-07 04:22:17 · 15 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Scoop's got it right. Serious illness and being dependent on another person (who is supposed to be your equal) is difficult. No doubt he appreciates the help you've been, but his self-confidence is a bit shaken right now I think. He's supposed to be taking care of you, providing for you (in his mind) and men believe they are always to be "the stronger partner."
He's feeling a bit weakened now... probably just needs to digest the way your relationship changed when he needed you most and the stress has gotten to you both a bit.
You are the only one who can answer your question about how long to wait. He's said you'll work things out and be okay. He's probably realized that you were there and he can count on you. You wait as long as you are comfortable waiting. If you grow impatient and end the relationship before he's had time to take his much needed deep breath, then it will tell him what your limits are and perhaps it's not the best match after all.
If the time gets to be ridiculous in length... then maybe he's just too overwhelmed by the whole experience to move on. I don't know how serious the illness was or what level of care was required or for how long. I do, however, believe that this is all a result of the situation... the arguing... and him needing space.
I wish you well... both of you....
2006-09-07 04:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serious illness can shake the confidence of everyone, if you have been living in eachothers pockets then its simply like he says and he wants some time. Probably just to think without you there about what you have been through together. If you have been rowing then surely its a good thing if it resolves this.
If you love him then let him have some time, tell him you respect this but you need to know how long he wants and then YOU decide if he is worth the wait. Good luck x
2006-09-07 04:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I love the person I would wait eternity but this space could be a good thing for you also. Maybe get some alone time and if it all does not work out there is always someone out there who will treat you well also. Just see what happens. You will be fine. Wait how ever long you feel and if it is too long move on. Whatever happens happens. Good luck
2006-09-07 04:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, an ex and I had "space" and all that happens is 3-4 days great "make up sex" then all you do is blame eachother for the time you took apart...its a wicked spiral you can get yourself into...
2006-09-07 04:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nottingham man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being in each others pockets is never good is it i bet you in a couple of weeks hell come running back unless he really dose not want it anymore PS the only danger is him getting used to life with out you but if he loves you he'll be back x x
2006-09-07 04:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by jnn_sanderson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who can say.... give him a week ( totaly no contact) then talk to him ask him questions tell him to open up to get things off his chest and that you can start again really listen to him though and give him time to talk over a few weeks I guess. slowly go on some dates and go home to seperate places until you either think "this is not working I have to move" on or he wants to move back in.
2006-09-07 04:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long is a piece of string, it all depends on circumstances, is he still looking after you, are you still seeing each other, how long has it been every case is different
2006-09-07 04:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Cj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when its over so just move on sorry about your illness hope your feeling better
2006-09-07 05:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by pat e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine too , must be something in the water. I guess you just have to wait and see
2006-09-07 11:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry. a bit of space is usually not a good thing.
2006-09-07 04:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋