If someone hurts you, u go to him/her to clarify the things. The person cannot justify your answer. In fact after clarification, that person keeps gifting you something or the other. Why is it so?? What are their intentions ??
Wud you accept the gifts as that PERSON is your close RELATIVE???
If yes..why?
If no...why?
2006-09-07 04:14:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
if some one hurts you, and they are truely sorry, yes forgive but if it is like the third time, they arent going to stop, so call some one and press charges.
2006-09-07 04:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are good at 'Social Manipulation'.
They live in a world where there are no rules or boundaries. When they cross these boundaries, they do so intentionally. Ususally, they cross the boundaries slowly, so that the person they're wanting stuff from doesn't know. Each person (every person) has their own intentions. You must take a look at yourself and you must decide what you can live with and cannot live with.
If you cannot live with it, then you must get help (another family member, friends etc). Share everything with this person who you're asking help from ... EVERYTHING ... for they can't help you unless they have the whole story. Sometimes you need that person you trust with you when you clarify stuff. If this person isn't hearing you the way you want to be heard, then you need to reach our further for help (teacher, boss, police
Gifts are great and should be appreciated. However, sometimes people use gifts as a means to get you to do stuff that you don't want to do. This is why many corporations/ government have a policy about what gifts are appropriate for their employees. Within the family, there is less outline of what gifts are good ... but if you take a gift and feel that the giver is giving only to make you do stuff you don't agree with, it isn't good.
2006-09-07 11:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The person is not percieving you as a relavent thinking and feeling full human. They are not responding to your expressions with relevant answers. Whether or not you accept the gifts depends on how you respond to the idea of yourself as a thing bougt-and possibly, naturally, then owned by the other. This is possibly just how they view others.They can treat you any way because they bought you. This often happens in families w/ strong ideas about status/ladder-placement, perfomance/function, and money.You have a place, a function, and a value, just like things.
2006-09-07 11:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Albatross 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the level of "hurt" caused to me. If they truly feel bad enough to go out and get me something than they might feel regret for their actions or they know that this is a good way to try and pacify me so that they can do it again. If you blow it off without expressing your side and let them off the hook easy than they get the picture that you are a push over. Say what you feel! Let this person know the effects of their actions. This will lead to you being able to figure out if they are sorry or not. You will be able to read their emotions. Also don't think something like "well they seem like a good person I don't want to label them otherwise" They have given you a reason to think this way. Forgive them but don't let your guard down, protect yourself, no one else will!
I hope this helps, trust your instincts and intuition. They are there for a reason, it's to help you out. Remember 60% of communication is body language, 30% is tone and the last 10% are the words used, good luck to you!
2006-09-07 11:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Scott 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once is ignorance... twice is stupidity. Go figure.
But I encourage you to forgive that someone who hurt you. The person is guilty so offering a gift is the person's simple way of settling differences. Accept the gift and both of you will be relieved.
I would forgive and forget. But I'll make sure that a second occurence would cause the other person regretting what he/she has done to me.
2006-09-07 11:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that person is a close relative accept the gifts.But be always careful not to get hurt. Dont let feelings of gratitude lead you to misery.
2006-09-07 11:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by Padmini Gopalan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised by an abusive aunt and uncle. I choose to stay away from them, but that is because they are so dysfuntional that the abuse will go on and on.
It depends on if they still hurt you. If they do I would stay away and not accept any presents, but if they listen to you and cherish you then I may give them a chance. Good luck!
2006-09-07 11:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To show their feelings of regret or to "buy you off"
I'd accept them, look to see if the person is sincerely sorry and not allow myself to "get hurt" again...
2006-09-07 11:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like classic abuse.
2006-09-12 07:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Ever Learn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm lost
2006-09-07 17:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋