How many women here don't have sex with their husband?

Question

Hi, my husband and I are young like 24 young.. We havn't had sex in 2 months. Is there anyone else in my situation as young. I wanta have sex he doesn't because of a stressful life and to top that off we've had alot of martial problems NO AFFAIRS just fighting and stuff and we are tryin to make our relatiionship stronger, going to see a therapist I hope it works! But he just tells me lets fix our relationship and then we will work on the sex. I am so impatient. BUT i wanta know if anyone else is in my situation. I feel lonely and alone in my situation.

Thank you all for your advice. I am very happy for those couples who came on here to share how satisfied they are but I didn't ask for your opinions but I am happy for you. Anyways to those who gave me helpful advice thank you so much. I dont think he is having affair where we live its very close to impossible to have an affair without someeone finding out. Anyways we both love each other and we always will. If the sex doesn't come back yes it is a problem and then we will maybe go to a doctor and see if something is wrong with him medically. I dont wanta end my marrige. But I do wanta fix it. sO THANK YOU for the one who understand and have listened to me VENT.

Answer 1

your not alone I have had the same problem.

Answer 2

I've been there, however I am about a decade older. With your husband claiming that its stress on the job keeping him from sex.....seems pretty suspicious to me. MOST guys use sex as a stress reliever and usually want sex whenever! With your husband being so young, I would have a heart to heart conversation and find out the root of the abstinence. It could be a physical, medical problem that might be the deterrent and he is too self conscious to share. If he doesn't want therapy, that also seems to signal a problem......I would not rule out an affair....sorry sweetheart; just really watch for signs. If all fails, let him know that you need sexual release, and if he doesn't want to have relations with you or discuss what is going on, then you might have to go elsewhere for it! (of course, you're bluffing) But may prompt him into action! Without really knowing all the details of your relationship....there is definitely something wrong when the man doesn't want sex!
Good luck and hope you start getting some loving!

Answer 3

Well me and my husband have sex once a week and that's not enough for me! I am 31 and he is 33! I think I am in my prime and he isn't! It used to be that we didn't have sex because he was watching too much porn but now we don't have a computer so I don't know what the reason is. He is always tired but hell I am never to tired for some good loving! you are not alone! I totally feel ya! I am thinking I am going to try to initiate it more! Because we don't have it a lot I think I tend to wait on him to make the first move. Good luck with the therapist deal!

Answer 4

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for two years and at the begining of our relationship we would have sex everyday maby twice but now we barely have sex. We have had some problems over the past four months and we still had sex, but what we did was "spice it up" as they would say we tried different positions and different places and it really worked. We still dont have sex everyday but its better then before. My boyfriends moto is sex makes everything better. So even if he still doesnt want to have sex do something different and fun and see if he wants to then. Get a book or as un-orthidox as it sound maby even a porno movie. Try it, what have ya got to lose? good luck

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but sex is an integral part of ALL healthy adult relationships. To withhold sex is very wrong. Now please keep in mind that sex includes holding, cuddling, foreplay, etc... not just the act itself. And both partners must put a great deal of effort into the relationship in addition to the sex. If you yell at your mate all day and then expect (demand?) sex at night, you are an idiot.

Answer 6

Seems that he is running away , and u better catch him, dont ask him for sex , b more subtle ,sweet and catty and slowly he'll get there and thank u for that, just dont push and pull that can b a big turn off, try to relax and work hard and yeah good luck

Answer 7

Ok I know I'm a bloke (26 married) but sounds like you both need a holiday or break from work, chill out fall in love again the rest will follow.

Answer 8

He may have a medical/physical problem. At his age, it's hell to admit, but it does happen.
It's not easy to suggest a doctor. You might talk to "your" doctor if you have one.

When I had cancer at 70, marriage went to hell after 1 year. I fell into a deep depression over losing it. I was always active. My drive is still there at 78. Nothing I can do. I told my doc, I thought it would end. NOT! So hell.

Really, he may need medical help.
Sh** happens.

Answer 9

What a shame !!! I have sex with my gf practically every day. I think it all depends on how HAPPY you are in your relationship. All of the bullchit excuses about stress and things like that are ridiculous. I was married and we argued and fought about stupid things and I just didn't want to have sex with her. Bad relationship = no sex life

Answer 10

I am not in your situation, but I know of people who have been. Two months really isn't that long (compared to how long it could be), and you're on the right track with going to therapy. Everything will work out!

Answer 11

Same here-

We've only had sex a handful of times in the last 5 yrs.