I have many negetive points how should I try to be a better person?

Question

Im 24 but still Im not satisfied with many of my own characteristics.I tried so many times but I was not successful please advise me

Answer 1

XXXXXXXX The most important factor in this is that you realize your own limitations. What you haven't realized is that we all have limitations, It's how we deal with them, that is most important. It's just a case of being an obtimist or a pestimist. "Is the glass half full or half empty". I had a friend, no matter how beautiful the day was and how great a time we were having she could always find fault. Nothing is perfect. No one is perfect. We don't live in a perfect world. We just have to look at all the good things we have and all the things that we are greatful for and just run with the feeling. It's a mind over matter." If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." But when you do mind and you want to challenge everything in your life and nit pick everything you set out to fail. Think good thoughts, whatever the situation. Lots of times we think things are better on the other side but when we get there we wish we were back were we started. You are only 24. What a perfect age to start living today. Hold your chin up hun and don't let the little imperfections bother who. There is a whole new beginning out there for you and you will miss out if you keep your eyes close. Good luck hun, you have so much to look forward to all you have to do is take off the blind fold and see the beauty within yourself and the world.

Answer 2

You should be happy, at least you know you are not satisfied with yourself and many of your own characterestics.
Just a suggestions,,, list down all of those negative things you think about yourself.

Then list down what are the things you can do to remove each of those negative things to make them positive.

Take your time,,, do not hurry yourself, at least you know where you are and that alone is positive enough to change you for the better the way you want..

Reinvent yourself and your thoughts,,, If you know how to pray,, pray a lot,, before sleeping,,, and before rising out of bed..

If you don't believe in praying,,,, meditate... and if you don't like meditating... read books,, books that will keep your mind healthy, keeps your thinking busy on positive things...

Answer 3

Mmmm...I think I can help you. I have some tapes that may interest you. Like, self-help and stuff. But not bad. And I'm not trying to say that you need it, but it's always good to have a good perspective.

Why don't you email me. My page has my email address. So feel free to contact me.

Here's a link to what I'm talking about. This speech should motivate you to at least get a hold of me.

I used to be in the same spot you are. So trust me, change can happen. And there's so much more of you to give than you think.

Take if from me.

http://www.ted.com/tedtalks/tedtalksplayer.cfm?key=tony_robbins

Answer 4

You will only be the best person that you can be. if there is something about the way you act that you don't like stop doing it .. it is really simple to change the things that you don't like..
all you have to do is want the change and work at it.. Sounds like you are being really to hard on yourself but just keep working on it and you will eventually be the person that you think you should be.. don't know why you think you have negative points is someone telling you this. or is it in your own mind.?
don't worry about it just be the best person that you can be
good luck

Answer 5

You can go way of "My Name Is Earl"; write down the things you would like to change about yourself (start small, like a top 5 or 10) and then work on those things. Don't over shoot; make a practical list and attack each thing, one at a time. If you feel like that is too much, then seek help through communities, therapists, etc.

Answer 6

see if u think u have negative points n u wana improve n work on them u actually dont need ne one else's help..all u gota du is analyse urself ..the way ur walkin..talkin ..acting n everything..

think 2wice b4 doing any damn small thing..den u'll kno wer ur goin wrong n stay calm n do the right thing..n to kno wats the right thing.. imagine ur a person that u reli adore for their politeness n general nature n think wat they wud du in such a situation..im sure there must be sm1 like that..so dat is the way u can help urself..

n most of all..spend time alone..loads of time alone..n think over the small small things dat u did..n try n think an alternative for wat u did if u felt it was wrong..it can be anywhere.. but give time to urself..

all that i have told u is out of pure experience..i have recently joined a boarding skool ..n believe it or not there is such an attitudnal change in me jus because of a few ppl advising me and me taking direct inspiraton from someone i noticed knows how to handle things in the right way..

i reli hope this puts u into thought the way i was..when realised..the sun is not gona stop shining for me if im suffering in the heat..i have to adjust wid it...think u shud have got the message im tryin to communicate.

Answer 7

First of all you should find out the reason why u r not successful.try to find out what is negative in you. Go for self analyzing, try to read gud books, discover the personality of the great philosophers & learners. See how they have lived their own life. If anybody points out your negatives, don't feel bad & analyse how it can be changed & improved. But important is dont demoralise yourself . Try & should will be able to recover ur own weaknessess.

Answer 8

First of all, you are no different than anyone else. We all are born with traits we like and/or dislike about ourselves. You have many fine characteristics and should focus on these, rather than try to be perfect.

As you focus on the positive, you will learn to love yourself for your many good qualities and something miraculous will happen: many of your so-called "negative points" will melt away! Try it! Good luck!

Answer 9

Well, you took the first step: realizing it. Another good step is modelling.
How do we best learn? We copy what others do well. That's what teaching and parenting is all about. Now that you know what your "negative" points here, look for people (either people you know, or famous people, doesn't matter) and seek out the traits they have that you want. Learn how they act, how they talk, how they think and how they react to situations and COPY COPY COPY.

Answer 10

Perhaps you should seek counseling. I recently started talking with a counselor (it only took me 23 years to get the courage.. I'm 23). Anyway, it seems to be helping. Good luck!