I love my husband very much. We don't have sex because of our past and problems we have. We havn't engaged in any sexual activity in 2 months. Yet, we still kiss and hug and love each other. We are trying to work on our problems. Yet, I feel that if sex never returned in my life I still wouldnt cheat on him and I wanta be with him even if I dont have sex. I feel we will eventually once we figure our problems out and get along better. Yet, I wanta know what you all think if you love someoene alot and figure that sex isn't really apart of it would you still be with them? The sex isn't coming from his side not mine.i WANT TO but we've had alot of issues to much stress and its just been gone for 2 months.
2006-09-07 03:57:54 · 25 answers · asked by Confused4life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, i think i would be willing and able to stay in a marriage without sex. Providing that neither party is engaging other people outside of the marriage. But I do think i would buy myself a toy to satifsy those urges in the mean time. You know he's taking care of business. They all do, it's normal. Why not find something for yourself? There are a lot of things out there for women now.
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2006-09-07 04:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My past marriage was a sexless marriage. It was heart wrenching. I thought that I could do it. And that marriage wasn't about sex,that sex was a small part. And that I was willing to sacrifice sex for a happy marriage. I was like you, I wanted sex and he did not.It was extremely damaging to my self esteem.I was able to hang in there for about four years. But it all came to a head. You need that intimacy. You need to feel attractive. Mine ended up in divorce and I would NEVER have a sexless marriage again.I think you should seriously look into counseling and sit down and have a honest talk with your husband. To answer your question: After my own personal experience, NO I would not stay in a marriage that was sexless. I wish you luck
2006-09-07 04:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have been seeing a guy since March of this year and we don't have sex, i care that we don't but i really care about him so i am being patient with him and hoping if things work themselves out with him. The reason we don't is not because of past issues its because he physically can't right now and he has to much pride to go to the doctor for viagra.
2006-09-07 04:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my marriage.I went 6 years without it while trying to fix my marriage.(his idea not mine).It didn't work.Even though there were hugs,kisses and love.I ended up resenting the lack of sex. The marriage ended .Sex relieves stress not adds to it.It helps bond the couple together.I would think of getting some counseling.Good Luck,I hope it works out for you.
2006-09-07 04:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really means that much to you stand by his side sex in a marriage is important but it's not based on love. Start mastubating your self to releave some of that stress you have and wait for your husband.
2006-09-07 04:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Wan R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never having sex would be a problem. That is how most couples get really intimate and connect on a basic level. They have physical needs, and expect their partner to help them with those. If they don't, most likely they will go somewhere else.
2006-09-07 04:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me quite a while to feel comfortable enough to have sex with my girlfriend(and as you know, men LOVE sex).
Maybe there is too much pressure going on in your lives, etc. Take it easy...see where things go. Being without sex for 2 months does not mean its over, your just taking a break.
Ask him if maybe he can satisfy you in another way without full blown sex, until he calms down.
Good Luck!
2006-09-07 04:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would i care? yes, but if 4 some reason i wasn't able to with my wife no. if the both of u r still committed to one another & the love and respect is still their, work on fixing things to get the stress level down between the 2 of u.
2006-09-07 04:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i wouldn't care if i never had sex. it sounds like you and your husband have a really special thing going that you both really care about, so neither of you want to risk messing it up by having sex. talk to him about it and ask if he feels the same way as you do, and good luck!
2006-09-07 04:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋