2006-09-07 03:56:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure your husband loves you just as I love my wife. I got bored with sex with my wife. I really didn't want to have sex with anyone else. I would masturbate when necessary. Sex became a chore, after years of marriage I had no surprises, no challenge. I neglected my wife sexually. It started when we stopped making out then progressed to my not preforming oral sex, I just didn't want to go down there. I would rather watch TV than go and please my wife. I was wrong and I realize that fact after it was too late. She left me while I was at work, on the day before Labor Day 2006, sneaked out after 13 years of marriage. I never abused her physically or mentally, just neglected her. The pain that I am enduring is the worse that I have felt in my 45 years of life. I know it's been only a few days but I now realize that If I ever get her back I will love her like a woman should be loved. Talk to your husband seriously, sit down be very serious, turn off the radio, TV and be alone with no distractions and let him know how you feel. Sometimes, us men do not realize how important sex is to women especially when women get older their sex drives increase as ours decrease. Good luck and have a good talk before you succumb to positive attention from someone else.
2006-09-07 04:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by sharkscue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Craig - your an idiot.
My husband happens to love me, and loves the fact that I am overweight, and has a cow every time I talk about looseing weight, and he very much enjoys the sex. His idea is 'more cushion for the pusin'.
As to this main question, without more detail about your relationship or the kind of person your husband is, there's no telling. I think there are a few men out there who just do not have the drive. It could be a problem for him, possibly needing to visit the doctor to help resolve the issue. Could be a couple of different things. Your best bet is to talk it over with your husband and encourage him to go to a professional without making him feel bad about how he is.
2006-09-07 11:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could be several reasons, certain diseases cause lack of desire such as heart disease, diabetes. HIS self-esteem may be low for some reason, loss of job, weight gain, hair loss. Depending on his age, he could be going through a lull. Course other reasons aren't physical, he may have found someone on the side or is in the middle of an infatuation with someone. Does he spend a lot of computer time at home? The best answer to the problem is simply ask him. Explain to him your needs and ask him what is going on and don't accept "nothing" as an answer. If "nothing" is all you continue to get, it is time to take a closer look at what hubby is doing.
2006-09-07 11:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by blue_ridge_classic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if I did, I probably would still be with my ex bf. we were together for 5 yrs even lived together and I ended it due to lack of sex and time together. But it took 3 yrs to do and now broke up for 9 months and he wants to get back. whatever, he had every excuse in the book for not having sex. After awhile it gets old and you start to look at yourself like what is wrong with me. I gained alot of weight, I know not his fault just facts. So good luck to you.
2006-09-07 11:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by trip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men go through thing's that they rather not talk about . sexually he may be having a little trouble. Pick the right time and talk to him about it. Word yourself carefully, and be sure not to hurt his feeling's. If it's something medical then go with him to the doctor if he's okay with it. But be very careful to address this because there is this thing going on with men called (DOWN-LOW). And honey it ain't nothing to play with.
2006-09-07 11:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Bossy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible his sex drive is low, it's possible he might have something, and it's possible it could be another. I would suggest talking with him to see why, if he gives you a lame excuse it's possible that he may be messing around or not attracted to you like he use to. A marriage counselor or talking with a pastor may also help the situation.
2006-09-07 11:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by DeZigns By Monique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of possibilities. Have you considered discussing it with him?
Could just be a phase.
Possibilities:
1) exhaustion
2) boredom
3) physiology (male menopause? testosterone decline?)
4) stress
5) dietary deficiencies
6) mental illness
7) getting some somewhere else
8) disallusionment
9) turned gay
10) desensitized by porn
lots of of possibilities...
2006-09-07 11:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Just David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... but I'm dying to know.
Go straight to the source... ask your husband, go see a doctor or go seek counseling together.
2006-09-07 11:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must be crazy ! I still desire sex and I enjoy sex , so take him to the doctor and find out whats wrong with him and see if you can get a cure for it.
2006-09-07 10:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction is that he is cheating, but I don't know you or him and you didn't give very much detail so I don't know if that is accurate. You need to sit down and talk with him and ask him. Good luck.
2006-09-07 11:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋