How do you get your boyfriend to believe that you are not seeing someone else? For one everytime he call me iam at work and I tell him I have to call him back he gets upset with me, and I work with children at a shelter therefore they need all of my attetion. But he thinks that i'm flirting with men at my job or seeing someone there and I always tell him why would I mess up something I already have that's good? He always says he know, but me and him have been dating for almost 5 years someone please tell me what a sista supposed to do? Because a relationship that long you are supposed to have trust,and I haven't did anything to make him think i'm seeing someone else.
2006-09-07 03:51:43 · 14 answers · asked by JUICY T. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You mentioned that you have been dating for almost five years.
How long has he been so suspicious?
Do you know why he may have started acting this way?
All I can suggest is that you need to talk to him, and tell him that his mistrust of you is just not acceptable, and unless he starts putting more faith and trust in you, then you will be left with no option but to put an end to the relationship.
The thing you need to look at is that you are only boyfriend/girlfriend, and for the relationship to have any chance of growing, it needs mutual trust and respect.
I don’t know whether you have perhaps considered the possibility that he may be seeing someone else, and that by him throwing his suspicions toward you, he is stopping you from being suspicious of him !
It could be that he is just immature and insecure in the relationship. Irrespective of what his reasons may be, the relationship will not grow until such time that he can at least respect you enough to be able to trust you !!!
2006-09-07 03:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things....and don't be offended by the first.
Are you doing anything to make him feel insecure? Talking secretly with people when he can see you.....or.....being overtly attentive to guy friends. If so, consider changing your behavior...if not....read on.....
Jealous boyfriends are the worst. Never had one, because I am not gay, but I know dudes that are jealous and know girls that dated jealous guys. GET OUT NOW. He has trust issues and there is little to nothing that you can do to help that. He was probably cheated on in the past and needs some kind of therapy.
2006-09-07 03:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the issue hon not you. I would tell him that if he doen't trust me than there is a problem and it lies with him and his self-esteem.
You could also try to get at the root. Did he have an ex that fooled around. What is the underlying issue. Once you get to that he may relax a bit. There is nothing you can do to change it for him. Talk it out and find out what his boggle is.
2006-09-07 03:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Heather B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys need to set up some "rules" for the relationship. They need to be agreeable to both of you. He shouldn't be allowed to bother you at work, that issue should be discussed at home in your personal time. Trust should just be a given, especially if you have never done anything to break that trust.
2006-09-07 04:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by mckenzington 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you people need to get a real life.
gees
this is not a funny thing your go through.
maybe I'm a little old fashion but,i wouldn't take crap off no man in this world.
i love my self to much to put up with this sh*t and you don't haft to either if you really love your self stop taking this crap off him.
and look for someone the can show you love and trust and wants to make you happy.
damn stop westing your life over trash.
2006-09-07 04:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man that used to be very accusing to his girlfriend, I would recommend you begin searching for someone knew. He suffers from one or both of two problems: a) he's a cheater; or b) he's extremely insecure. Either way he has a serious character flaw that will not be easily repaired.
2006-09-07 03:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathan Thomas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and fast! He is the controlling type and he is having a fit basically because your not up his butt 24/7. Could you imagine having a baby with this man? He would be so jealous! Put your Nikes on girl!!
2006-09-07 04:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by gemm77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down and tell him that you're not !!
Maybe he needs to be reminded how you feel for him , tell him you love him and he's the only guy you have eyes on and that you couldn't see yourself with anyone else but him ...Guys like to hear stuff like that ..
Best of luck to you =)
2006-09-07 03:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is an issue now it will be an even bigger issue if you decided to marry. Step back and look at your situation. Is this somehting you want to long term?
2006-09-07 03:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him it ain't the truth. tell him what u feel just like u wrote it here. and ask him "what should i do so u'll believe me?" and do what he says. he's really jealous but he loves u so give him a chance. don't worry and show him how much u love him.
good luck and take care
ali shkodrova
2006-09-07 04:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋