what are sum things that i can do to make my wife feel more loved?

Question

My wife states she would like for me to be more affectionate

Answer 1

Well I have just told my husband the same thing and for me the little things mean so much. For example when we are in the car and he reaches over and puts his hand on my leg, it's like he's thinking about me at that moment. I like for him to hold me on the couch when we are watching a movie. I also like it when he holds my hand when we are walking into a store. When he leaves for work in the morning he always comes into the bedroom when I am sleeping and kisses me goodbye. I would like for him to kiss me more, not just when we are making love. I would also like him to play with my hair or stroke my face with his hand. Any form of physical touch shows me that he loves me. Looking into my eyes and telling me how much he loves me and that I make him so happy really melts my heart. it would also be nice if he left me little notes to tell me he loves me. Anything that I do to show affection, I would also like him to do!

Answer 2

Tell her you love her with words and show her you love her with action. Small things make a big difference. Help out around the house, like do the dishes every now and then or vaccum the floor. Women love flowers, stop at the store every now and then and pick up a really mushy card telling her how much you love her. If you have kids find a sitter and take her out to a romantic dinner. Lots of hugs and kisses and hold her tight. At night when you go to bed snuggle close to her instead of sleeping all the way at the other side of the bed. Write her a letter and just tell her all the things she does that you appreciate. Small kisses on the neck while she is cooking or doing the laundry. Hold hands and kiss in public. After you make love dont go straight to sleep lay there and hold her in your arms. It doesnt have to be anything big or expensive. Small things count and are very important. Women are very emotional and very physical. We need to be told and shown that we are loved.

Just an idea that I thought was really awesome. My boyfriend bought a dozen red roses. He filled the bath tub with bubbles and plucked all the petals off of 6 roses and put them in the tub, he filled the entire bathroom with lit candles and turned the radio on to some soft soothing music then he called me and shut the door. I was so touched that I cried. Then when I got out of the tub he had 1 rose on my pillow and rose petals all over the rest of the bed, more candles in the bedroom. It was so amazing, and I had never felt so loved in my whole life. The next day when I went I got up I found another rose by the coffe pot and when I went to work there was one in my purse. See just put some thought into it.

Answer 3

The most important of course is communication, making her feel like an equal and telling her that you appreciate her and love her.
Bring home flowers every once in a while.
Purchase gift certificate to go get a massage or pedicure to get a break from house stuff.
Plan a special night away from the kids (or even no kids), where you completely plan it out - it will impress her.

Also, ASK her what you can do, it may seem to direct but sometimes men don't know and need some clues as to how to please the wife.

Answer 4

How long have you been married? Just because you are married, the 'work' you put in to get to the altar doesn't stop there.

You have to treat your marriage similar to a garden... you have to work at it, tend to it, shelter it, remove any weeds, go easy with the fertilizer (B.S.) and it will continue to sustain you. If you neglect it, your garden is eventually going to wither and die.

The ladies have given you the correct tools to do this... be affectionate, date her, "Try a Little Tenderness", be spontaneous, woo her, knock her off her feet (not literally), surprise her...

Do chores around the house that she wouldn't expect, cook dinner, write her some love letters, write her a poem, massage her shoulders, give her a hot bath, with candles and wash her back, take showers with her, snuggle with her in bed, cuddle on the couch...

But listen and this is very, very important... when you do all these things for her, DO NOT expect sex in return or you will have blown it! This is simply for romance, because you love her, because you thought she was tired, just because...

And believe me, she's gonna continually fill up with all the romance and vibes you're sending her way and when it's time...
you'll thank me later.

Answer 5

That depends on what makes your wife feel loved the most. An excellent book that can help answer your question is called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. He explains the five different general expressions of love which are:
1. Words of affirmation (saying "I love you", " You are beautiful", etc.)
2. Quality time (meaningful time spent together)
3. Receiving gifts (getting presents, cards, mementos, flowers)
4) Acts of service (helping her with everyday things like having her car serviced or cleaning the kitchen)
5) Physical touch (sexual expressions, kisses, gentle touches, snuggling, etc.)

Each receiving person has one main expression type that has the most meaning.

Answer 6

Sometimes it is the small things that make us go weak in the knees. Coming up behind her while she is cooking dinner and giving her a big hug. Whispering in her ear what nightie you would like her to wear later tonight and what you plan on doing to her when you get there. If she likes little gifts, go buy her some nice bath items and run her a bath after dinner and you go clean the kitchen for her. These kind of things make a woman feel like you are still interested in her and make her feel special.

Answer 7

Do you hold her at night when shes sleeping? Do you tell her you love her often? Do you sit next to her all the time? Do you kiss her before you leave everyday? Do you call her when you're going to be late just to let her know that you're still alive? Do you guys take alot of pictures together? Do you tell her often that she looks beautiful or nice? Do you hold each other while walking in public together? If you answered no to any one of these questions, then thats what you're doing wrong....

Answer 8

Some of the above answers are very good. If none of these work and she is still needing more affection I would suggest she get herself a young, firm boyfriend. It will feel like love for awhile.

Answer 9

Help out more around the house. Hold her hand. Open the doors for her. Why doesn't every ones husband do that for them. I have only been married a year but my husband still does all of that, even the car door. And I still feel all mushie inside when he grabs my hand when we are walking.

Answer 10

Well find out what matters to her. and do those things. like does seh like art, pictures, flowers, reading, whatever is important to her in her life find something for her special.ALso, make it a habit to brag her up when talking to people. Make sure she hears it. Let her little notes and voice messages during the day. When she first wakes up look deep in her eyes amd tell her how beautiful she is anfd how lucky you are to have her.