Plz Read and answer this its honestly to help my friend?

Question

My friend wants to lose her virginaty and my and my friends want to convice her not to. I was wondering if you could give an age and very good reason not to so it could help me convince her.

Answer 1

Tell her the most precious thing that she has is her virginity. Once she gives that up, it's it. It was meant for us to keep that until marriage. I know that is not happening but that's the way it is supposed to be. It's called your "private" for a reason. It's private because any and everybody shouldn't have access to it. It's only meant for one person. I know sometimes our body goes through different things and we have different feelings......but our body is our temple. I am not sure how old she is, but if she is young, tell her it doesn't matter how many people around her is having sex, don't give into the peer pressure. If you start having sex at a young age, by the time you are older you will have been with so many men. It's not worth it. Tell her to find other things to occupy her time. She should stay around more positive people..... people that are trying to do something and have something in life. After the sex is over, she will feel empty and then that will bring on more trouble. The best thing for her to do is to keep her virginity. It's not worth the heartache, pain and the aftermath. If she is with a guy that can't respect her wishes, then she should find someone else who values her. She has to see how valuable she is.......never settle in life......she's priceless, tell her don't settle for pennies.

Answer 2

What does she regret now?

Add one more to the list of regrets if she gives it up too early.

Need some other reasons, at her age she is likely: not really in love (she may think it's love but she has no idea), not in a long-term committed relationship, not emotionally mature enough, not wise enough to understand the consequences and risks, not careful enough to minimize the risks (as is evident by her having sex too young), likely to have sex with an idiot who doesn't know anything more about relationships than he does about sex.

I could go on, but what I would ask her is what is a good reason for her to have sex? She likely won't enjoy it, it won't bring her and the guy closer together (actually will probably cause him to move on to the next conquest), won't make him like her more, won't give her self-esteem or self-confidence (if she had that she wouldn't be having sex so young in the first place).

About the only good reason I can see is if she's curious what all the fuss is about sexually-transmitted diseases and wants to contract one herself.

Answer 3

Depends where you live.I think the average age is 16,legally. Tell her it's like being tattooed...she can't wish it did'nt happen .once it's done. I'm guessing that she's under the age of consent.If she is,the guy could get prison.Ask her if she's old enought to think about what comes with having sex,like disease,pregnancy.Not all contraception works.Has she thought about if she's ready to look after a baby for at least the next 18years,explain it to her family,or tell them she has A.I.D.S ? These are thing that many a person has said "Oh,It won't happen to me"....and has. She needs to grow up first and experience life,before just having sex because she wants to know what it feels like.She's lucky to have a good friend like you,but at the end of the day,you can only advise.It's up to her whether or not she's adult and responsible enough to come to the right decision

Answer 4

Firstly, it is your friends choice....I am just wondering why she wants to lose her virginity and how old is she.

There are lots of reasons why a young girl should be careful about losing her virginity, but convincing her of that will be very hard. Losing your virginity should be thought about very seriously and should only be done with a guy who is gentle and really cares about her.

Most young girls first experience of sex is not too pleasant and it takes an extremely sensitive male to make it a pleasant experience for her, and if she is young, then young guys are pretty inexperienced and dont take the time to make it a pleasant experience for the girl.

The only thing I can suggest you tell her is that it can hurt....a lot, and if she doesnt have feelings for the boy and only wants to lose her virginity, then she is going to regret it big time when she finally finds the male she really cares for or loves. And for a young guy if she is special and he loves her too, then he will appreciate the fact that she is a virgin and wants to give herself to him. But if she just wants to give it away to anyone, then it will not be a pleasant experience for her and could determine her enjoyment of sex in the future with the right guy, not to mention it could give her a reputation.

Good luck, I hope you can persuade her not to just have sex with just anyone just because she wants to lose her virginity. She sounds like she has some very good friends.

Answer 5

Ask her why she wants to lose it. if she is honestly in love then it is her decision, however, if its just to do it and you are convinced of that. Tell her that it is a very precious thing that once its gone it's gone and make sure that whomever you chose to lose it to truly appreciates and honors that. Tell her that her first time is not going to be like what she read in those cheesy romance novels and if she wants to take the next step in adult hood that she should be ready for it. I think anything under the age of 17 is too young..... If she decides to do it then make sure again that she is doing it for the right reasons.....

but good for you and your friends... good luck

Answer 6

Tell your friend that right now hepatitis A,B and hepatitis C is killing more people now than ever and if she truly desires to have sex both of them need to go get checked out together to show that they do not currently have any diseases, and it shows that they care about not transmitting any diseases to each other and that they trust each other. There is also a rise in HIV that's going around and she needs to be careful. I know it's hard when you want to express how much you love someone but, you need to use some common sense.

Answer 7

Losing virginity should be done with person that you love and that loves you back,there is no age limitation but I don¸t recommended before 18, until you mature enough to know consequences and risks of having sex without condoms...but some mature earlier than other so I would say that itş individual but better later than sooner!

Answer 8

I have the same problems with my friend she likes guys attention and she would do anything for it she keeps on doing things to guys like giving oral sex I tell her to stop and I'm trying to convince her not to have sex with some guy but she never wants to listen she says oh it's just sex I don't know how to convince her I try everything talking about sexual transmitted diseases she don't care so I guess you have to let your friend make her own mistakes.

Answer 9

I guess I would have to ask how old she is and if she is in love with the guy or is just sick of being a virgin....I lost mine to someone I loved dearly and was 17...I never have and never will regret that but a friend of mine lost hers at 15 just because it would make her parents mad...she said it was horrible and still regrets it

Answer 10

If she waits till she gets married it will be much better. There is really no need to let a bf to pressure her in to it. If he loves you he will wait. If he does the old " If you love me you will show me," dump him as fast as you can. He is not worth it. You will be nothing but a notch on his belt. I am 26 and wish I had waited to be married. Sex is not what it is hyped up to be if you are constaly worried that he will cheat on you. Please tell her this for me and let her know that waiting is worth it. You will never have the fear of getting pregnat or getting a diesease.