Is it ever OK to have an affair?

Question

A friend has a husband who does not provide her with the emotional and physical closeness that she desires. My wife says it is ok if I help our friend with this matter. Now that I have the "go ahead" from the friend and my spouse...I am anxious about going forward with this. Even though she is beautiful, there is still a forbidden aspect of it in the back of my mind. My spouse has had affairs and I didn't mind it. I am not sure if her (friends) husband could do the same? The lady friend is very eager to have this closeness with me, but does not wish to wreck either her marriage or mine. It would be sort of a "best friend" plus friendship. Has anyone ever heard of such an affair working out well?

Answer 1

Trust me I know.... They don't work out. Someone always get emotionally attached.

Answer 2

Rick, Hi, Sho, good question-I had that one myself a while ago, I made the choice to go ahead with an affair-and still my better half doesn't know about it-As tempting as it may sound and how difficult rather stay away from the whole situation-Believe me the adrenaline is what keeps the affair alive and better than your marriage but you so caught up in so many emotions and feeling guilty for having and affair and guilty for like haveing an affair.
Sweety, rather don't-Its not fair to you or to your spouse-
Its never OK im having the consequences every day...

Answer 3

If her husband is not supplying her with physical (I am guessing sex here) or emotional support then he is more a friend than a husband... A husband should be your best friend and share all your triumphs and disasters...he should be the only man in your eyes and heart when it comes to making love...If she sees you there and not him then I guess an affair is not out of the question but if the guy is YOUR friend then that makes it tricky...Ask him why he is not there for her and get his point of view first if he is not providing her with sex then he is probably getting it elsewhere some men like to have their cake and eat it too...if he is one of these then go for it what is good for him should be good for her too and anyway your wife already gave her okay

Answer 4

I personally do not believe it is ever OK to have an affair -- but then my wife would be entirely crushed by my infidelity. There are many people who do not have a problem with extramarital affairs. For them it is fine.

You seem to have consent from three of those involved (including yourself) -- what about your friend's husband? Does he consent? You should realize that for many people this is a very personal insult -- there is no greater assault of trust in a relationship than an unapproved affair. Such an act could lead to your friends divorce.

Answer 5

NO IT IS NOT OKAY.

And your wife shouldn't be having affairs either! And much less with your approval!!! If either of you take this marriage seriously you should start reviewing things, and stop making a laughing stock of all other married couples.

Even if I do not think this, it couldn't possibly work. The lady friend would not want this if her husband paid attention to her - this means that she actually needs it. Wouldn't that mean she will get emotionally attached to you?

Those are severely unhealthy relationships to have.

Answer 6

So it makes you sense solid understanding that he ought to lose each and every thing any time even contact collectively with his toddlers? How do you sleep at nighttime understanding that you're with yet another blokes bit on the section? I dont imagine there are any excuses for having an affair with a married human being, in spite of tyhe situations. Its egocentric for a commence, why are you able to no longer have all and sundry else why a married guy? and to boot it takes 2 and hes as a lot to blame as you so i imagine you ought to both be ashamed. once you marry someone you're taking them warts n all, in spite of their faults you artwork on them no longer say stuff it and bypass look elsewhere. Its immoral how human beings can cheat no longer purely on their better halves husbands yet cheat on the toddlers to boot. Bloody shame

Answer 7

Its sounds like a dangerous kind of relationship to have, are you friends with her husband as well? If you know things arent going well for them, why dont you wait it out, because things are likely to end anyway, if they are as bad a she says.....and just be there for her emotionally for now, she will appreciate you so much more for it, and then things wont turn sour with you if things happen to go awry......its up to you friend, but work out first whether 1) your relationship with her/your wife will withstand the pressure 2) if you really want to ruin a great friendship.....3) if she really does want to leave her husband or if she is just looking for the extra benefits......ie sexual with the husband, emotional with you......as a song once said " How could you give your love to someone else, yet share your dreams with me......." Its messy - work out if its worth it....really.

Answer 8

never. Every single one of the relationships I know of that involved other people ended up broken. And bottomline, if she is not getting that with her husband and she wants it from him, why is he not fulfilling her needs. If she is seeking it out from someone else, how hard could she be trying to grow and heal the relationship with her husband. Why not get a divorce and be done with it. I think she may want it because it is taboo. If your gut is telling you no... there is a reason.

Answer 9

Nope. If you do it, why not just have a threesome with her and your wife, that way its all out in the open. Someone in this is going to get hurt... Either your wife, your friend, or your friends husband. Id prepare for the worst.

Answer 10

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!