I am in the process of dealing with a recent divorce - my husband had an affair. He was not committed enough to me or our son to deal with the problems we we having so he took the easy way out. We just needed to reconnect and spend more time with each other - typical of a ten year marriage. I know I will be better off without him but this is still new for me. We have joint custody - I miss my son. Some days are worse than others. I take one day at a time and each day is getting easier but I am a little down. Any words out there to make me feel better?
2006-09-07 02:55:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as you mentioned, it is a process. people require different ways and time to do so. please do not let your self-esteem be shattered by this incident. most of the time a man or woman cheats has nothing to do with the partner. you mentioned problems and it looks as though your immature ex took the craven way out. make the most of the time you have with your wonderful child and do not use him as a weapon in this divorce, as he is too young to understand the dynamics of adult relationships. surround yourself with friends and family. time will heal. good luck!
2006-09-07 02:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy oh boy don't men suck ?! I have been married 3 times. First husband alcoholic, second husband cheated on me(killed in car accident, he was totally burnt except his penis), third husband cheated on me also(later found out he was gay). you are better off without him. I just got back together with my first husband the father of my 20 year old son. We decided to get back together after 14 years of not knowing anything about him. He doesn't drink now. He is a born again evangelical cristian. We have been together for 2 years now and we both are adults now. We met when I was 17 he was 23. Don't worry you are better off alone. Men don't feel the way we women feel. I am happy some days with my husband and when he verbally mistreats me I am very sad. No he isn't perfect. None of us are. But if I could support myself and my son I would definately be alone. Then I think, I don't want to be alone. AUGH ! MEN SUCK..!!!!
2006-09-07 03:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Here I am 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Already been their my ex is in prison but you just get involved with your kids lives and maybe get more active in your own such as college and i wish you luck yes its hard I hate to be alone especially at nights the worst only i dont miss him anymore i just hate being alone but im alone by choice i dont want a guy right now they are just drama i do not need but just sleep with a big pillow beside you for now so you dont roll over in a cold spot and take it a day at a time things get better....
2006-09-07 03:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is dealing with that problem. She and her ex-husband have joint custody of their 13 year old son. She only sees him every other weekend. It can be done if you want to work it out.
2006-09-07 02:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by theodore.story 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does get better, and you will be a better stronger person for dealing with this. The fact he committed adultery rather than work things out, already puts him below you in the strength scale, concentrate on your son and enjoy your freedom
2006-09-07 02:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will get better, just remind yourself of the blessings in your life. Think of the things that are going great for you, and cherish the time you do get to spend with your son.
2006-09-07 03:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write your son letters that you can give him later.
Find a hobby that you enjoy that will help take your mind off of the times he is with his dad. Volunteer
2006-09-07 02:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,my sister,i love you and i want only the best for you.I'll pray that in time,your ex will surely realise his loss and come back to you and your child on his hands and knees for a second chance.Take heart,read your bible and keep the faith.
Keep safe!
2006-09-07 03:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by kareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time. I was married for 10yrs. too. And sure your gonna miss him for awhile. But it does get easier. Best of luck to you! And as for your son, mine is 10yrs. old. He will always love his mama!
2006-09-07 03:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U CAN MAKE IT WITHOUT HIM CAUSE I AM SURE THAT IT IS BETTER TO BE BY YOURSELF THAN WITH SOMEONE THAT IS UNFAITHFUL TO U. (WELL THAT IS HOW I FEEL) U CAN GET OVER HIM AND I KNOW THAT IT IS GOING TO BE HARD CAUSE U HAVE 10YRS WITH HIM. GO OUT AND HAVE SOME FUN WITH SOME FRIENDS TO GET YOUR MIND OFF OF HIM.
2006-09-07 03:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋