I met a girl recently out in a 21 and over bar and things took off great. She is a gorgeous girl, very sweet, smart, and into a lot of the same things as myself. After about 3 dates it hit me I never asked how old she was. Since I met her at a 21 and up bar I assumed at least 21 and I was thinking she was around 23-24. Come to find out she is 18, and in her freshman year of college. I'm 26, and have a college degree so I know what the first two years of college are like (and damn do i miss them). Is she too young to expect anything serious out of? And by dating her am I just holding her back from her best years?
2006-09-07 02:54:36 · 19 answers · asked by Crod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it depends on you.
Are you looking for a serious relationship, or are you willing to just have some fun?
You are right about her being too young for a real commitment, but you are not too old to party with her. She needs the chance to experience all the fun college life, just like you did.
Since you obviously liked the college years, and admit to missing them, maybe it wouldn't hurt to have a relationship with this girl. You could have the chance to attend a few functions with her and see if you are ready to move on past the single life, or if you would enjoy a few more years of it. After a few football games or keggers, you would know what you wanted out of a relationship, and if she is willing and able to fill that role.
Just be honest to her and yourself about what you what.
If you are looking for marriage material, she's not it, and you are only hurting the both of you by dragging the relationship out.
If you are looking for dates for fun and companionship, then you may have found a good partner. She's not at the point in life to be making demands of a serious commitment the way a woman closer to your age might.
2006-09-07 03:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends on the level of maturity for the girl. Do you want anything serious with her? There is quite a difference in age which could cause you all to see things differently in life; one is more experienced etc. but I have known it to work. Every situation is different. She could really be into you. How will her parents feel about her dating someone of your age? If it's meant to be nothing can stop it and if it's not nothing can make it work. Go out on a couple of more dates and see how things work.
2006-09-07 03:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you would be holding her back from her best years. At the age of 18 and just starting college though, she might outgrow you. People learn a lot about who they are in college and she may be a completely different person in four years. There is nothing wrong with the age difference though if she is 18, just the point she is at in her life.
2006-09-07 02:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number, for some reason that is all people worry about in America, where in Asian countries like Thailand they could care less! If he is a good guy and you get along go for it, besides ladies age faster then me, look at it this way did you ever see a 60 year old man with a 52 year old lady, do you think anyone really cares! God Luck what ever you do!
2006-09-07 03:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends. If she wants something serious and you see she is mature enough then go for it. I was married at 19 and I love it. I've been married 5 years. But I didn't feel the need to live out "the best years of my life" or date around. I am living out the best years with him.
2006-09-07 02:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your state laws on what is a legal age. Here 18 is legal. So No she is not too young for you age dont matter as long as both parites are of legal age. Changes are since she was at a 21 and up club she likes guys older then her. Im 19 and my husband is 36.
2006-09-07 02:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was 17 when I met her and I was 23. We are still together after 10 years and we are very happy.
She was mature for her age and I am immature for mine, so we were a good match.
So age is just a number and if she is mature you will be fine. Remember she may not be looking for a husband right now.
2006-09-07 06:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there are several things that will happen. you two may fall in love, but eventually, she will want to go out and see what its like to be with guys closer to her age. especially if its her first year in college, she's gonna want to do things she didnt get to before. Or, when you want to move on, she may get really attached to you, and she will end up getting hurt. she's younger, and less experinced than you are and that can Definetly be a problem. so i say, if you do date, dont let it get out of control or too serious too early.
2006-09-07 04:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Redstarr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ammm.. its a tricky one.. yes, the years that she's in right now, she really should be single.. its a learning curve... and from experience (which im sure u have too), u'r most probably gonna be the one to get hurt in this, especially if u have anythin near long term in mind
u cant expect such committment from her coz she's only just about to learn independence, etc.. she wont be likely to succumb unless its at the cost of her losing out on what u already have achieved
2006-09-07 02:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are into her, I don't see a problem with the age difference. Maybe you are the best years? Be positive and your relationship can only get better..
2006-09-07 02:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋