what will i do with my attitude, i am a jealous type of person!?

Question

how can i get over it...how can i change it? you know what, me and my girlfriend almost fight everyday because of this attitude of mine... i love her so much that i cant let her go... i dont know on what will i do if the time comes that she will left me because of my attitude...what will i do with my self inorder to not think of negative things upon her? plz help me...i have negative thoughts almost thats why she hates my attitude...hope you could help me for this...

Answer 1

Well think about what you have said ... Are you ready to pay such a price for that kind of attitude ... Free your mind and your heart, Its difficult in the starting, But atleast its a start !

Answer 2

have positive attitude towards all the persons and the things. Smile with every one. In the karma theory, any previous attitudes willcarry forward.

Learn doing meditation at least for 20 minutes. At the end of the meditation, bless who are all the persons who you used to get jealousness. Bloess with the words: VAZHGA VAZAMUDAN.

If you can continue to do for a week, see the fantastic results.

Answer 3

Who's attitude is it? Why can't you control it? Have you designated someone else to control it for you? Are you a victim of your own attitude? Are you so weak that you can't control your own actions? Come on, guy! Take responsibility for your own actions. Take a stand! Be a good man. You are the only one who can do it. How? JUST DO IT. When your attitude starts taking over then you push it around and tell it to straighten up.
You are in control here. Right?

Answer 4

I do understand what you are saying. Part of your battle is already won you know... and that is by admitting that YOU know you have a problem and that YOU would like to change.. that is perhaps Half of the battle won right there.

What you need, I believe, is a good self-analysis of yourself by yourself. IF YOU ARE SINCERE IN WHAT YOU SAID.. then for sure you have a problem and you must change.. I understand VERY WELL why the young lady has doubts.. How would she like to live the rest of her life with such a self-destructive as yourself.. Take a look at these items below.. forgive me if I do not word them exactly right... But to change and analyze yourself.. pay some attention to these items:

1. Practice indirect effort.(I think that is what it is called)
In YOUR relationships with other people, You (and people in general)have a tendency to get what we want by using an indirect approach, rather than a direct approach. Realise that people are more impressed by you, if you at first demonstrate genuine interest in them. The key to having quality relationships is based upon what you first put into those relationships.

2. Raise the self esteem of others.
Develop your own "Personal Communications Strategy" which strives to make others at work and home feel important. By raising the self-esteem of others, your own self-esteem will rise.

3. Pay attention.
Be attentive when people are talking to you. This means stopping what you are doing, looking straight at the person talking, avoiding distractions and not interrupting. Remember that your 100% attention tells a person that you genuinely value them.

4. Eliminate negative destructive criticism.
Nothing is more demoralising to adults and children. Start to listen to how you are speaking to the people you care about. The first step towards ceasing destructive criticism of others is to recognise when you are using it. If unsure, ask people if you frequently use criticism on them.

5. Don't argue.
Instead of taking a contrary stance just for the sake of it, start to listen and understand the other person's point of view at work and at home. Like any new habit, this may not be easy at first, but for the sake of the important people in your life, force yourself to do it.

6. Say "Thank you" more often.
I am continually amazed at the lack of appreciation shown by people, particularly in business. It takes but a moment to say, yet can leave a lasting positive impression. Start a new "Thank You" habit today. Apply it regularly in your relationships with your children, your spouse or partner, your fellow workers, your boss and even in your letters and e-mails etc.

7. Practice "The Golden Rule."
This rule simply tells us that we should love others as much as we love ourselves. Next time you find yourself in a potentially difficult situation, ask yourself this question: "How would I like to be treated in this situation?"

8. Avoid self-pity.
Sometimes we inwardly feel sorry for ourselves and just want to relieve the stress and strain by "taking it out" on somebody close to us. This situation is a sign of low self-esteem, which can be raised by re-focusing upon your true values and goals. Not knowing them, is a strong indication as to where you should start.

9. Make a commitment.
Be sure in your own mind that you are putting in and openly demonstrating a 100% commitment in your important relationships. If improvement is required, then take the appropriate steps, starting today.

10. You can't change people.
This is so important to understand. Nobody can change another person. Change only emerges from within a willing individual. We must therefore recognise that if we want others to change, then first we need to change.

Finally, if you wish for happier relationships at work or at home, recognise that the starting point is always "YOU". Self-knowledge is an invaluable personal asset, it will steer you towards successful relationships throughout your life.

Answer 5

Get some counseling or therapy. Jealousy is a mental sickness.'

Answer 6

Do not covet.