Well my wife is 1month pregnant and she has been feeling sick. I know that I have been there for her and she makes me feel like I am all alone. I know guys are suppose to suck it up and drive on, but I love my wife and don't want her to take advantage of me either. I am there for her but at time s I feel she just the center of attention. What can I do? Em I a bad person or husband????
2006-09-07 02:46:35 · 12 answers · asked by mr_nice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
About the sex, I feel rejected and I do love the way she looks. I heard that sex gets better during pregnancy, is that true??? I need advice on that as well.
2006-09-07 02:47:59 · update #1
She's only a month pregnant... she's still emotionally and physically adjusting to the changes..... You're not a bad person OR a bad husband, you just don't really understand what's going on with her and that's acceptable.... if you want to make things easier for the both of you, go out and get the book "what to expect when you're expecting" It'll prepare you both for what's to come. As far as sex..... while I haven't been through it.. the majority of my female friends that have, said all they wanted to do was eat and hump... so I can only assume it gets better. Remember, she's going to get heavy, she's going to lose energy, she's going to be miserable (hot/cold flashes, won't be able to put her own shoes on) she's going to be self conscious and lose some self esteem for these next couple months..... BUT SHE'S CARRYING YOUR CHILD.. she's giving life of you... what could be a greater gift to you? Try to support her as much as she needs, it's not "taking advantage of you", it's needing you, it's relying on you to keep her sane right now.... Good luck
2006-09-07 02:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point her hormones are going crazy and she has mixed emotions! It is not you!! Everyone woman is different during pregnancy and it takes time to adjust to the new things happening to her. Give it time she is only a month along and it should get better! Relax and don't pressure her right now! Make sure she is comfortable and that she eats right and takes her vitamins. She is pregnant with your baby and she needs your support as well. Your not alone in this! You need to let her know she is not alone as well. Be a patient and helpful towards her and things will be better in time! 9 months is a long haul but you can do it! If you love her then you will help her!! Congratulations to you on becoming a daddy!!
2006-09-07 02:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be hell for the first few months. However, hopefully, it gets better for you! Her body id going through huge changes! The first 3 months are the most important. You are not a bad husband you just need to do ur own things. Keep ur-self busy...just be there for her and listen. This isn't going to go on forever. She doesn't make you feel all alone...you do. So, get busy doing things you enjoy. After awhile start doing the babies room. That is something you guys can do together. You are never alone....we are all with you in this life. Remember that you aren't the only man that has gone through this. She is the center of attention and will be for awhile...well until the baby gets here. Just be strong and keep ur-self busy! Take care!
2006-09-07 02:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can do is tell you what happened to me. I didn't have the morning sickness, but I was naseuas ALL THE TIME! I mean I cryed in bed one night because I just WANTED to throw up. I don't remember having that much sex during the first trimester due to how I felt, but then after the third month you couldn't keep me off my husband. I didn't get that big at first, it was the last week that I blew up, but we had to change positions anyway. Mostly on our sides. Anyway! It is all about your wife right now. There is no way that you can understand how she is feeling right now. Think of a water balloon expanding inside of her right now and its pushing all of her organs up and over. (which is what's happening) Also her hormones are going whacky. Her period is a drop in the bucket. Just stick it out like everyone's telling you. The first trimester is the hardest to handle for the guys. Then the last few weeks her emotions will go hay-wire again and be there for her then as well. Good luck on everything!
2006-09-07 02:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, having been through this kind of experience only once, I can only offer the following tidbits of info.
After hearing from other friends and family members about their experiences, I decided to not pressure my wife for sex and to be as helpful as possible.
While I worked my rear off, getting a new room ready for the birth of our son, I also scored points by giving my wife a lot of massages...she especially appreciated the foot massage.
She went through not only physical, but mental changes.
Even though she was top in her class for both her Bachelors AND Masters degrees, she began to forget things during her pregnancy.
Its a total change for the pregnant woman.
You gotta understand that...its beyond her control.
As for sex, I suppose I was lucky in this department.
The progression of her pregnancy made her more active and I was happy to comply.
Lastly, she IS the center of attention.
She's the one doing all the important work - from diet, exercise and health check-ups...not to mention the labor and delivery.
Would I want all that pain and discomfort for nine months?
Hell, no!
So let your wife do whatever she is doing.
You can talk to her and let her know where you are coming from...she needs to understand that she's not going through this alone, even though the focus of attention is on her.
I don't think guys have to "suck it up" - that is just stupid macho crap.
We're human, too.
We are entitled to have feelings and a lot of us who are ACTIVE participants in our wives pregnancies DESERVE some attention and respect.
If communication is good between couples, there is no reason that the husband can't express his needs, as long as he understands and lets her know that the priority is still her.
Relationships are suppose to be somewhere in a 50-50 give/take, but pregnancy usually sways this in the woman's favor and I'm fine with that, as long as the wife throws the husband a bone for his EFFORTS to HELP her during this time.
Are you a "bad person or husband"?
I don't think so.
Just work on your communication skill, use tact and diplomacy and give her time to adjust to this new experience.
It's suppose to be a happy time, but NOT if she is sick, has to pee all the time, have backaches and all the other changes going on in her body.
2006-09-07 03:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell your wife this or it will get worse. if she is already getting sick at one month then it is going to be tough on you. she is pregnant not ill so she should be capable of doing a lot of the usual stuff. Just look after her when she is sick as well. but do tell her that you need her attention too or you are going to feel pushed out when the baby is born and then that will but a strain on your marriage.
Good luck and enjoy what should be a special time together.
2006-09-07 02:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by cheaky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In early pregnancy the woman's hormones go crazy, so she'll be feeling sick, irritated, and won't want sex for a while. Keep on supporting her and don't pressure her. By the third or fourth month she should start to feel a bit more "normal" again.
2006-09-07 02:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is overwhelmed with emotions and hormones ... after a few months it will die down around 3 - 4 months into the pregnancy ... as for the sex .. give her a little while ... me and my husband had a really good time when I was pregnant ...just try to be patient....and congratulations!!
2006-09-07 02:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by bigs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depens on girls but as i know most of the girls are like that .......... uhm.. about having sex if pregnant! its a no thing beacuse i just ask a doctor and she said once you have sex when you are pregnant the baby in the stomach will get dirty like there will be black spots on the baby.........that true
hope you and your wife will be happy forever
2006-09-07 02:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by niks08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really it jus depends on the tipe 0f p3rs0n sh3 iz
2006-09-07 02:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by d2floewest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋