I'm 40yr postgraduate professional in Dehra Dun India, happily married. For the last few weeks I'm desperate to have sex with anyone else (someone -- straight and decent). I've never been unfaithful before, but now I get this urge to do IT just once ! Otherwise, I'm a healthy, normal person, non alcoholic non smoker. Ofcourse, I'm worried about the social implications of being "caught".
What do u think I should do and is it normal?
Should I go ahead .... just once ?
2006-09-07 02:41:47 · 13 answers · asked by Explore_Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
see it is always the first time and then you just ger carried with that activity ahead also. There few things in this world where you have to be loyal. you are married, actually happily married then why you need to experiment sex with some other person. It is going to harm your married life and YOU also. If your wife got to know this then she will leave you. then it is you who is going to suffer the rest of life. if she forgives you then also, are you going to forgive yourself? Few things in our life are such that they looks good when we are away from us but as soon we get to enjoy that things, it is going to give pleasure for few days or months then it will kill that person from within. so be aware and away from it. AND DON'T FORGET THAT THIS IS INDIA WHERE HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE CONSIDERED AS RAM AND SITA. IF YOU WANT YOUR WIFE TO BE SITA THEN BE SURE THAT YOU HAVE BECOME RAM!!!
2006-09-07 02:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you shouldn't do it. If you are happily married then you should want to remain happily married. Think about the problems that will come out of your moment of pleasure with someone else. Is your cheating worth losing your spouse? If you are caught; would you want to spend the rest of your life with this other person? The only thing you will be getting from this other person is sex and your spouse has so much more to offer. How long have you been married? Do you just need to spice things up a little? This one time of pleasure could cause you much heartache and pain later. Think about it. Don't give up the 80% for the 20%.
2006-09-07 09:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you Love your wife I would confront her about maybe a little kinkiness in the bedroom,or maybe even some role playing..dressing up like a doctor,nurse,teacher..wear a wig..Hell I would suggest trying different things before you mess up a marriage,assuming you really love her..But I do think it is perfectly normal to feel this way,and probably thinking it over before you react is the best thing.I would try the role playing,and a few other things before I messed things up and having that guilty conscious of being unfaithful..
2006-09-07 09:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by crazyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting "caught" shouldn't be your only worry. If you were truly happily married you would worry about how your wife would feel and getting an STD and transferring it over to her. Maybe you should talk to you wife and let her know how you feel. It could simply be that you want to try something different and your wife should be willing to help you out with that. After awhile sex gets monotonous. Try different positions, role playing, toys, spice it up.
2006-09-07 09:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal . It is the difference between man and animal both have the same emotions but only man can control it .Think , if your wife feels the same .It is hard to accept isn't it .Be sincere to your wife ,to your family. Spend some time with your wife . find out some other solution.
2006-09-09 13:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by RkM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal... i mean, people GET crazy ideas. you're not defective or anything. please don't think that just because you get this feeling, that your marriage isn't right- like i said- people just think things.
sex outside of marriage IS wrong. it's immoral, unhealthy, dishonest, and- i'd picture you like a lowlife scum if you did! (just me!)
you will get urges all the time, but i promise you more than ever- you Love your wife, and her alone. save your pure Love and sex for her. you will feel better about yourself in the end too.
if you want to be flat out honest... come to your wife, and tell her this. i promise you- if she Loves you, she will not be mad at you; but will thank you for being truthful, Love you for your honesty in admittance, and do everything in her power to help you make the right decision.
"oh, how much greater it is to be completely absorbed in the arms of True Love, rather than to waste yours away with infactuation?"
- Silence Dogood
2006-09-07 09:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Silence Dogood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right way to do wrong thing. do not try to justify your wrong attitude. the greatest gift what a man/women can give to his /her wife is "virginity" even if it cost our life we should be faithful to our life partner. GOD is not a fool to close his eyes when human beings try to violate marriage principles. man's nature is like CONQUERING a territory , then he will forget about it and go for a new territory. men is having tremendous pursuing ability , to pursue , and pursue end with great despair. we have to control our evil inclination to wards women. it is time to reconcile with your wife.
2006-09-08 02:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
variety is the spice of life! its normal but u hav to be more carefull while taking a syep like dis
2006-09-08 06:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by tania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are like that because you are a HUMAN BEING and not an ANIMAL.
2006-09-07 15:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by jk s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing abnormal as there are several things on our lustful mind.
people may react differently. but, if done discreetly, most of them would love to do wat they do not like to admit in public.
2006-09-08 02:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋