What would you do if you opened your doors to your nephew who is 17 and you tell him all he needs to do is either go to school or get a job and then he gets here and works for a week . and then just lays around. and not wanting to do either. And you have your own children to raise? Plus he has no where else to go cause his own parents dont want him
2006-09-07 02:36:20 · 12 answers · asked by shanota 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tough love. If he won't work, or go to school, kick him out. Seriously. What are you showing YOUR kids, right now? That your word doesn't mean anything. You told him he had to work or go to school. He is doing neither, and is laying around all day. You are enabling him. You are feeding him, sheltering him, and allowing this behavior. If you truly don't want this, then stand up and show him the door. And he WILL find somewhere else to go. He found you, didn't he? Good Luck!
2006-09-07 02:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where the tough LOVE comes in..some times as parental influences in kids lives we have to be firm..I would lay down the ground rules either he works,goes to school,or he goes back to his parents,or foster care..i know that's hard and you don't even have to really mean it,but maybe a statement like that would work.You also mus think of your own children,what kind of example is that for them?I know your nephew right now is probably hurting because his parents don't want him,but you have to reach out to him with LOVE AND DISCIPLINE.If he can't do as you have ask you may want to consider letting him stay some where else,seeking some counseling for him,and just being firm and loving..I wish you the best..this was a hard one..but I have been there..very hard decision..
2006-09-07 02:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by crazyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we know why his parents don't want him, he seems difficult. I am not sure why you took him in, but that was a brave thing to do. He needs an education, first and for most. He does not get to pick he goes to school and gets a part-time job like the rest of the 17 y/os in this world. If he doesn't want to do this call social services and let him know that you will. You can only do so much and you do have other children to protect. You have to lay down the law and stick to it.
2006-09-07 02:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my foot would be planted in his A** for one! He was told to do one of 2 things and wants to be lazy instead then I guess I would say find another place to stay! You have rules that he should follow and if he can't follow them then he has to find some where else to go! Maybe this is why his parents don't want him either! Tough love is the way to go! He has to learn to grow up!!
2006-09-07 02:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay the rules of the house down, if he dosnt like it, tell him to leave, he wont because he has no where else to go. Explain you have children and are trying to set an example for them.
2006-09-07 02:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has to pay rent.
He is a lazy bum. He is a bad influence on your own children. He is in your household now. He has to follow YOUR rules. Tell him his vacation is over and get a job. NOW. Or, he is homeless. Say what you mean. Do as you say.
2006-09-07 02:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not in school and not contributing to the house hold kick him out. Either make him pay rent or evict him. The choice is his not to go to school. since he is not in school you should not have to put up with him trying to freeload off of you.
2006-09-07 02:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by passionparties_by_suzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight with him or he will walk over you get a job or find some where else to go say i love you but i have children to support too help yourself or out have to be firm set boundaries mayne put it to him like that
2006-09-07 02:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by rita g18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not abide by your rules, it is time for him to go.
He is going to have an affect on your other kids. He is 17 and is old enough to live on his own. You are going to have to practice tough love.
2006-09-07 03:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sign him up into a juvenile delinguents' home/institution or kick him back to where he came from.
2006-09-07 06:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋