My Best friend and i don't do the things we used to before,we hardly call each other and if she does come at my house or vice versa it's not for long.I don't know if it's because she got married ,moved away for a while (year or two)then returned home.But she always wanted us to have a lesbian experience together.I don't know if that's causing the distance
2006-09-07 02:28:38 · 6 answers · asked by Caribbean Queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Things like this just happen. Especially when you get married, start having kids, or move away. I use to have a best friend when I was growing up, we were like sisters. I met her when I was in the 3rd grade. Then she moved away and started making new friends. It is hard to keep in contact when you never see each other, and yeah there are phones, but it is different.
She started hanging out with the wrong crowd and as time went on I felt I was growing into an adult more than she was. She would only call me when she needed something, or wanted to talk about her new boyfriend. She would go out and get plastered and go bar hopping to the point that one time she got pregnant. Then she had a baby, but still kept getting all these different guys.
While her life was spinning out of control, and no advice in the world from ME could chance her life, I got married and had two children of my own. A stable family life (besides the occasional arguing with my husband). Then she came over here for a visit once and she talked to me like, "You are so lucky. I don't have a husband who supports me and my kid."
Nothing could have changed these events, or the way they happened. I tried looking out for her, but because she moved and made new friends, I didn't matter as much. It hurts, but in the end when they have no more friends left they will come back. Because, what kind of friends do you think will stand by their side? The ones that get them drunk or the ones that just want the best for them?
2006-09-07 02:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by ForeverLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just need to speak to her and lay the cards on the table and say, "Hey, I've noticed that things have changed in our friendship and we don't seem that close anymore; what's going on?" I know that we all grow up and go our own way, but in your heart you will really know if that person is a true friend, no matter how a part you are or just what they call, "a fair weather friend". These people come around maybe once, twice a year and for some reason it's only because they need something. Just talk to her and be honest, about everything. Hope this helps.
2006-09-07 02:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by elainey66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because she got married.All my friends changed when they got married.It's a new chapter in their lives and they're concentrating on building a new relationship.Maybe her wanting a lesbian experience with you comes into it.She might be embarrassed about it now,in case her husband finds out about it.I know what's it's like to have a best friend who moves away,gets married and returns.Things just are'nt the same anymore. You'll meet other friends along the way.One day,when she realises what a good friend you are,you'll be close again,right now she probably does'nt even realise that she's leaving you out of her life.Try clearing the air and ask her straight out what the problem is.Good luck
2006-09-07 02:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your friend about how you feel and see if it can be worked out. If not then kick your so-called friend to the curb and find another friend that you can open up to and talk to them about anything without feeling like you have to be scared to express your true feelings and emotions.
2006-09-07 02:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by d_bossie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the real life... it is like that! you can't tell that you might be best friends forever with someone... life makes you change, the others too. also interests change so you just have to continue your own life, to believe in you and in what seem important for you... stay friend with your old best friend and am sure you'll find another best friend that meet your criteria.... we all do the same i guess
2006-09-07 03:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by altin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really strange..Sorry but I have no experience to be able to answer you correctly..I'm just 16..Hope you'll find some help soon.. :p
2006-09-07 02:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Elli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋