he has wild imaginative ideas and will not believe my truthful answers to his many questions. he invades every area of my privacy, my cell phone bill, my purse, my personal belongings packed away.
2006-09-07 02:23:46 · 12 answers · asked by Cheryl H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is tell him you're not. He has to chose to trust you or not trust you. It sounds like he has some insecurities, especially to be invading your privacy. My husband would never look in my purse, not that there is anything to hide, he wouldn't do that, just like I don't look through his wallet! Marriage has to have trust! That's like one of the basic things needed to make a marriage work. You can tell him until you are blue in the face that you are not cheating, but it's up to him if he believes you or not. This is a difficult situation and maybe you guys should seek some marriage counseling. In my opinion a marriage can't survive with out trust. I pray that you two will find a way to work through this! Good Luck
2006-09-07 03:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheryl, your husband has serious problems. Assuming you haven't given him a reason for this, he needs help. Perhaps you could try sitting down with him and discussing it but I doubt he's going to listen. A marriage has to have mutual trust ( no chance he's cheating, is there?). Maybe the ladies here can help but I think where there's no rational reason for it, then he needs counselling. Perhaps his parents had this problem? Just a thought. Good luck. I won't say email me if you want to talk because that could be misinterpreted by him!
2006-09-07 09:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by ezc692 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What led him to act this way in the first place? Some past relationships that betrayed his trust or something recently?
You have to get it across to him that TRUST and RESPECT is a major part of marriage and his actions are showing he lacks both in you. And if there is no trust and respect, the relationship is going to suffer. He's going to spend so much time investigating you, that he's going to miss out on the joys of your marriage. I would suggest going into counseling with him to find out why is he so suspecting of everything.
2006-09-07 09:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care to put up with this type of behavior (I don't), then be as open as possible. Let him see that no matter what he looks at, he will not find what he is looking for because it is not there.
On a personal note, I think this type of jealousy/possesiveness is very brutish. You will never be able to convince these people that they are wrong in their assumptions -- they are already convinced of their viewpoint and are only looking for items to validate it. That sucks, but its truth.
2006-09-07 09:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by jesikae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You're screwed as long as you stay with this guy. I'm so sorry for women who will give up every part of themselves for a man because he says he loves her. You need to decide what is more important to you, your health and sanity or marriage to a nan who neither respects you nor trust you. The proplem will only get worse.
2006-09-07 10:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And he STILL does not believe you ?! Well then, I'm afraid there's just no convincing him. It sounds like he has some major trust issues. Here's the kicker: You are enabling him by submitting to these interogations. Stop. You have done nothing wrong, act like it. He needs counseling.
2006-09-07 09:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to change a person like that and you need to set him down and have a serious talk with him about how you feel becuz things like can can push you away. If that doesn't work you may need counseling
2006-09-07 09:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy kill always a good marriage.Forget to try to explain him;he will never understand.When a man become jealous,he can not think, never good.Be happy,you can not waste your time,trying to convincing him,he will never understand.(that is the jealous: typical man behaviour).Good luck.
2006-09-07 09:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you either fall to his expectations or he goes and you get on with your life looking for a trusting man to be with. Is he per chance trying to deflect any suspicion on your part.
2006-09-07 09:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by machinerytech2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him has he found any evidence yet? If not, then you are not having an affair. How about asking him to hire a PI and spy on you.
2006-09-07 12:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋