I am from Canada and my boyfriend is from Yemen. Ive always cocidered myself more of a freespirit than a homebody but my boyfreidn hates it wehn other people look at me.
2006-09-07 02:18:17 · 26 answers · asked by mary jane 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
if he's a new comer to canada.. then don't blame him as he will NEVER change. he grew up with different, strict and conservative traditions and customs. he may be melt into the canadian culture/society but he will face difficulties when it comes to accept you as you are.
and does he really love you or just seek your help to get the visa? ;)
2006-09-08 02:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kelzow20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is an Arab. Whenever we would go out he would ask me repeatedly "is that guy looking at you?". He didnt want anyone looking at me or talking to me. If anyone even bumped into me at a bar he would get sooo mad. He wanted to be at my house every day and know every detail or everything I did. It was unerving. Maybe all Arabic men are not like this but this was just my experience. He was a great guy. Very loyal and treated me like a queen. But I could not get over the posessivness. It scared me because I know how that characteristic can also be accompanied by voilence. I didnt not want to be someones wife sitting at home all of the time while he was out doing whatever he wanted and also risk be treated in a violent manner. Maybe my experience was more signifgant than yours. Talk to him and let him know how it makes you feel. The arab culture does have a different view of women than the american culture. That is just how it is. Not that its good or bad. It is just different thus you will have a different experience. Just a fact.
2006-09-07 02:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its not his fault. In his part of the world and religion, women are supposed to hide themselves behind veils and ugly masks so that other men dont get attracted towards a woman who already 'belongs' to one man. This is a part of their lifestyle. Unfortunately, it is not a very healthy one as it wholly proves the female sex to be under total control of the male. If you want to be happy with this man, you must give up your freespirit nature and become his cow. To save yourself and him the anguish later, give it a further thought.
2006-09-07 02:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by someone 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
insecurity. There's a lot of factors against people from that area of the world. When he has something going right for him, he wants to keep that perfect-not allow anything to disrupt that one thing going perfect for him. Hence the insecurity and being possessive. I know-I have a similar problem.
2006-09-07 02:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
may be u are better off in many areas than him like smartness, spontaenity, job/career wise etc, which may make him feel insecure about u, also the background factor comes to play...maybe he has seen his mum being treated in the simillar way by his dad so he may subconsciously picked it up..., but i would like to give u a small advice regrding this if u feel it difficult to handle the pressure put upon u by him its better to call off the realtionship as wid each passing day things will turn from bad to worse...
2006-09-07 02:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by simplynuts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all Arabic men are possesive...my husband is from Egypt and we are both muslims and because he was mostly raised in Americ by a realistic family, he is not possesive at all. He never makes me serve him, I don't have to walk behind him and he is not jealous or possesive at all!!
2006-09-07 05:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by barbann1973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and I am from Canada, and my husband from the middle east. The day I feel he is not "possessive" I will kick him out of my life!!
All males are like that, and it doesn't mean that you loose your freedom!
2006-09-07 03:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by alya m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they believe that women are their possessions, not independent people capable of self determination. This comes from centuries of living in a patriarchal society that denigrates and degrades women into a class substantially lower than men.
2006-09-07 02:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by Hockey, Guns & Beer 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of the human race and culture, from physchological point of view, when a person become possesive about something, it implies that the person is afraid of losing it.
2006-09-07 02:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by shin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you take what you call ''possessive''? I call it being protective-taking care of.
I once went with an Arab from North Africa, and he treated me like a queen. I felt so special, tho, I knew the relationship would go no further. Once, at dinner at his place, with many friends all sitting on the floor eating, He said to me (I was serving food to people), ''You sit here!'' and pointed next to himself. An American girl said to me later, why do you let him talk that way to you and order you around? I told her he just meant he wanted me to sit next to him.
So, it all depends on how you take it, and how you feel about the situation.
2006-09-07 02:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Shossi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋