i just told my ex. bf that i am pregnant and he told me that he cant afford another kid when his fiance is 4 months pregnant and me 3 months along!i am in pre-law just like him and he says he wont get a job till after law school and that his gf parents offered to support the other baby till he is done with law school and his parents will continue to support him. my parents just found out and say they will only pay for college and books.!is he allowed to do this????????????
2006-09-07 02:15:56 · 34 answers · asked by kelly d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i was in a committed relationship with him since senior yr in highschool he is the only guy i have ever been with
2006-09-07 02:33:10 · update #1
i'm studying for corperate law and only just picked this major
2006-09-07 02:35:00 · update #2
he was cheating on me with this other girl!
2006-09-07 02:42:15 · update #3
One sec, brb!
2006-09-07 02:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by ??Dani??? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO he isn't allowed to do this. He is responible to both of you to pay child support and medical support only. But since either is another child by someone else(even if you had more children by him) if reduces the amount he has to pay. Please speak to someone in the Department of Child Support Enforcement about this matter and to let you know support cases and custody/visitation are two different cases. You need to get this order done after the child is born and he may request a paternity test. Good Luck from someone who has been there and going thru support issues also.
2006-09-07 02:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, he is allow to, but I mean, why would you want a person like him as your baby's daddy any ways? He is irresponsable, dont want to get a job till he finishes school(that is very selfish), and he has a fiancee... you sayd it, his fiancee's parents are going to take care of the girl and the baby... what are you expecting from him??? Every women can raise a child by them selves, get a part time job, and after you are done with school, get a better job, at least you wont have to worry about books and school money!!!!
GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATULATIONS
A BABY IS A GIFT FROM GOD, DONT EVER DOUBT THAT!!!
2006-09-07 02:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by my_sweet_love <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they will force him to work, whatever hours he can. School just doestn get you out of responsibility of being a parent. Otherwise, every dead-beat mom or dad would be in school!
Take him to court NOW because you are supporting the baby right now by having to eat more, and buy extra clothes that you otherwise wouldnt have gotten.
You are pre-law, you should be able to look up your statutes.
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2006-09-07 02:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by psychstudent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think he is. You can make him pay child support. But if he chooses not to be in the child life, then you can't make him. The sad thing is that the child may grow up without a father figure. How much longer do you have in school? I hope everything works out for you.
2006-09-07 02:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can escape child support forever, you have to go to court and get an order for support once the baby is born, of course there are ways he can get away with not paying it like working for cash, but he will just accrue back support and they will still be taking it out of his social security checks if he still owes it! the government will catch up to him, be diligent and work with the county child support workers once you have an order, there are also many things thay can do to make his life miserable if he does not pay: take away drivers license, not allow him to get a passprt, ect. it took me four years, but now i have recieved support steadily for two, he will learn eventually, but you have to keep on him, it is both parents responsibility to support their child. Also there are many agencies that will help you have your baby and go to college, it sucks but you do what you got to do to give your child the best life you can, so get all the help you can and go after that bastard with a vengence. good luck!! and get some federal grants/aid for school, and take your parents money and use it for living expenses or save it. You can do it.
2006-09-07 03:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by lksy7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you...
I would write a long letter and make a very heart felt care package toward my child.
I would give her or him up for adoption.
Continue your schooling, it's very important that you finish and allow yourself to concentrate.
If your ex feels privileged to do what he did, then you should feel privileged to do whatever it is you have to do to survive and keep your sanity.
Your ex is your enemy.
Do everything in your power to be a million times more successful than he is.
Don't talk to him.
Don't engage in any affair with him.
He is gone and one day you will see your child again.
If it turns out he wants custody, that's a million times better because he will take care of your child for you so that you can study and be successful.
Don't think for one second that you will never see your child ever again....you will.
2006-09-07 02:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but I don't believe your pre-law. In any case, don't worry about him right now. Focus on your pregnancy (last thing you need right now is stress). When the baby is born then take him to court for child support.
You can't force him to be a part of your child's life (even if you tried).
Good luck and congratulations on the baby!
2006-09-07 02:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...his current girlfriend is 4 months pregnant, and you're only 3...? Are you sure it's his kid? That would mean he was cheating on her with you after you dumped him... Dude, what kind of f-ed up soap opera do you live in?
2006-09-07 02:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Robin J. Sky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first he is a cheater.... second the law says he only has to support the baby after it is born (child support)..... there is help for you... wic helps with food , medicaid pays all the doctor plus delivery of the baby.... you may be able to get food stamps..... don't worry your parents will come around and help you if they see you are trying to help yourself
2006-09-07 02:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is things like this that causes so much heartache
and our beautiful future children suffer abortions
because love is not there and suffering becomes an issue
I hope you keep what belongs to you
for your child is the miracle called life
Call on Jesus is will always be there
I am sending legions of holy angels to you now
to minister to your heart
May the grace of prosperity come upon you and your child
2006-09-07 02:20:54 · answer #11 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋