should i be ok with that? it really drives me crazy.
2006-09-07 02:06:43 · 43 answers · asked by hi-iam-loveface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not wrong of you to think that... does he know that his involvement with porn is not comfortable with you.
When does he download the porn and where does he download it to? Try this... the next time you know that he is downloading porn (and you're able to) go and sit right beside him while he's online. Tell him that whatever he's doing on the computer, he should be able to do the same thing while you're sitting there.
Hopefully, he then doesn't resort to doing it at work, because then he's risking getting fired! If he's not working, you can always resort to canceling Internet service.
2006-09-07 02:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, right now we don't even have a computer because he destroyed it after our 100th fight over it. He would look at it when I was asleep, in the shower, every chance he got. And it got to the point where we were barely having sex! It was hurting my feelings so bad. I kept thinking I was doing something wrong, I wasn't attractive enough or I wasn't doing it for him anymore. What made it worse is I made a compromise and said fine watch it but only when I am not here. Then i'd catch him in the middle of the night. Once looked up on the history and saw what he had been looking at, confronted him and he lied to my face about it!! It is such a difficult situation. I know men look at that stuff, but it bothers me so bad. I want to believe that my husband only wants to look at me, but that just isn't true! We are doing so much better than we were, but it's because we don't have a computer. He is now talking about getting another! I dread the day! To me if our marriage is suffering because of this he wouldn't do it. He should respect my feelings about it, but he doesn't see anything wrong with it. When we get a computer I am thinking about going to marriage counseling because the porn issue is a big issue with us!
2006-09-07 04:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should NOT! It sounds like he has a problem and needs to seek some help. Well express to him how you feel about the porn and see if he will respect you on how you feel and slow it down a little. If you allowed him to do it from start then you are part of the reason why he is out of control with it. You should have stop him in the beginning and now your wonder why its driving you crazy. Figure out what does he get out of it and maybe he needs some more from you or something!!!
2006-09-07 02:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by mikdar001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think there's something wrong with you when he's the one obsessed with porn. I can understand everyone being a little curious but if he's spending way too much time looking at it he's got a problem. You need to think about the fact that he's just flat out being rude to you and disrespectful if he's doing it while you're around. If he wants to sneak a peek while you're at work or out with friends that's one thing but if he's doing it while you're both home or even in the same room that's a huge issue. Ask him why he needs to look at pictures of other naked women when he's already got a fantastic woman at home that he can see naked any time. It almost feels like he's cheating doesn't it?
2006-09-07 02:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by sunssecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! i understand completely what your problem is, men can sometimes do these things and it will make us feel worthless as if we are not pleasing them, but sometimes you have to play right along witht hem and let themknow what it is that they are doing.... why dont u get some films with sexxy men it in stripping for you and respond the sameway that he does to his films, also use your own fantasies and putiton him but u can do what ever u like. or always find something else more interesting thatn him; and he will begin to kniow what that feels like and he will either change a little bit and takeu into consideration or thind will turn for the worse!!!
But i sttongly advise you topull backfrom himand find your sefl it sounds like you are emotionally to into him and rightnow he has his own concernon his mind and not u.
spend sometime away from home and explore your own sexuallity
2006-09-07 02:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no that isn't wrong of you if my husband pulled that crap I would kick him out my husband and I don't like porn I wouldn't be okay with my husband watching porn when your married you should be enough for your husband he shouldn't want to see porn when you get married your suppose to be with your spouse he has a problem big time that stuff isn't right that just doesn't make sense men watching porn when their married I mean damn they have a woman they can see her anytime they want he shouldn't have to watch porn to get turned on he has you that's all he should need I wouldn't want my husband seeing naked women as well as my husband wouldn't want me seeing naked men when you get married your suppose to be committed to eachother and be with that person damn if a man still thinks of women and fantasizes about others he shouldn't had got married he wasn't ready to be committed
2006-09-07 04:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is your sex life? If it really good it could be because of the porn. If it lacks there of it could be why he is looking at Porn to relieve his tension since you may not be! Either way being pissed is a waste of time! Either start giving him more sex or be happy your getting great sex!
2006-09-07 02:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's wrong, not you. I heard something interesting the other day on porn. They say it affects your brain much like alcohol or any other drug does, and releases a chemical..often times so much that your body begins to crave this. Seeing pornographic images releases that chemical in the brain and that person gets their "fix", much like taking a drug. It's more than looking at pictures, it's an addiction and addictions are dangerous.
2006-09-07 02:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by NiceGuy27 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, there are MANY women out there who feel the same way. I finally had to say "Touch the Dam Computer again and you move out!" It has worked for a week now, but sooner or later, he'll be right back at it. I am trying to get out of this relationship as we speak. Only you know what you can put up with and what you can't. I guess they don't realize what it does to our self esteem....jerkoffs!
2006-09-07 02:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat and he promises that he will stop and dosent. Its not wrong of you to get pissed. He should love and appreciate you sexually and not need to check out the porn on the internet. Good luck
2006-09-07 02:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋