I have a best friend who always makes me look bad.
I mean she pretends that she likes everyone and deep down inside she hates everybody and me from the other hand i can't do this. I always act accordingly to people,if i like them i talk to them if i don't i wont talk to them! That’s who i am.Also this guy was interested in my best friend,nothing serious though he just got her number and send her a few messages.She turned him down and told him that they just want to be friends!After i talked with her and after i was certain that she wasn't interested i told her that i like him.But she is annoying! She sits in the front seat of the car, she hugs him, kisses him and she sends or the wrong signals to him, and she thinks that she is acting friendly but she is not! She does this with every guy friend that we have! I tried talking to her. But she thinks that she is acting friendly!
What do u think?
I am starting getting annoyed by a person who i really love as a friend!
Thanks
2006-09-07 01:56:48 · 23 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This person is not your best friend and doesn't deserve to be. You must have heard the expression: "with friends like that, who needs enemies?" A true friend is someone who deserves your love, loyalty and trust - because they give back the same. A true friend sticks with you through bad times and good - they don't hurt you or ever make you look bad, just to make themselves look better. From what you've written about your friend, I think you can see through this girl and know yourself that she's really not friend material - never mind best friend material. Believe me, you should have someone very special as your best friend because that's an important relationship - and good friendships can last a life time. That means a lot!
2006-09-07 02:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Scottie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both sound young so it will just take time to grow up. Some people mature faster than others and that is when it is time to start hanging around a crowd more like yourself. It might come about that she will grow up and in a couple of months things will be nice between you two again. Good luck, I went thru the same thing and I know it is hard!
2006-09-07 02:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by boohoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The things about friends, you just get used to someone. It's not really a friendship keeping you together, it's more like an addiction. Like smoking you know, you smoke even though you don't like the taste because it's an addiction. And that's why it's hard to give up a friend. but if a person is a bad person you shouldn't feel obligated to spend time with them. If you really do like her, chances are she won't change so you'll just have to deal with her behavior.
2006-09-07 02:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your best friend doesn't deserve to be your best friend.A best friend is there to be loyal to you,support you and care about you.What your friend is really doing, is constantly hurting you every second.Especially to what she did to you by the guy whom you've liked.In other ways if you think, she is acting friendly,probably,it's because that she doesn't want to let you down in front of other people.I mean she could've left you ages ago, but she still comes back to you because she feels that you're her only friend.Why don't you two sit together and discuss about her behaviour lately.Give it another chance, if she's not giving you another chance then leave her.
2006-09-07 04:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by radioconcrete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like your freind just doesn't know the difference between 'being freindly' and being a tease. You have 2 choices:
1) Sit down with her and have a good honest talk about why kissing/hugging male freinds is inappropriate and wrong, and why you feel hurt by her behaviour. Hope she sees things your way and dosn't take it as you being controlling or a put down. Try to frame it as helpful advice.
2) Choose to remain freinds with her, but avoid going out with potential boyfreinds with her along.
Make sense?
2006-09-07 02:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by psioni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your friend and let her know how you feel about her behaviour.It may be that this is just a symptom of soething between the two of you (she may consider you as a challenge, or may just be plain misdirected).
Consider also how you will deal with your friendship with her if she holds firm with that behaviour and says she does not intend to change.
Keep in mind also what you would want her to do if you were in her shoes.
2006-09-07 02:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Joma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have patience. The guys will figure this out soon and then they will begin to see you in a different way. Always be on the lookout for new friends who don't treat you second class. Then you can move on and forget this problem.
2006-09-07 02:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to change her, so if you really love her as a friend you'll have to accept her as she is, faults and all! If you're unable to do that then you need to end the friendship gently and find new friends that will enrich your life rather than annoy you.
2006-09-07 02:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes a flirt, plain and simple. Guys will see through that.. Trust me. My daughters are going through that with a friend.. And she flirts with every guy possible. But some of the guys tell them they dont like that about a girl. So you just keep on liking him, I wouldnt tell your friend about him anymore, that may just make her flirt with him even more. You need to be- friend him without her around.. Goodluck.
2006-09-07 02:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is a real friend or deserves your friendship..You should find a way to talk to her and find new friends as well..But be careful because people like that don't care if you considered her a friend..
This are my thoughts from my own experience..
Good luck :) and try to find a better friend..This is not real friendship..
2006-09-07 02:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Elli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋