2006-09-07 01:51:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Say your ill. You could get the mother or the baby sick. (depending on if the child is born yet). Tell them you are sending your present though...
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2006-09-07 03:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most people on here already said, you don't have to give a reason, so keep it simple and just say you can't make it. Do have the courtesy to RSVP though. It's fine to not go to the shower, but let whoever is planning the shower know in advance. If you have already RSVP'd and said you would come, than you can either call the day before and say you're sick or do the polite thing and honor your committments. Even if it's just for a half hour - show up, drop off the gift, make an appearance, and have an excuse to leave. If this is a friend or relative she might be really hurt if you don't come at all.
2006-09-07 03:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by sks42683 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just RSVP that you can't make it - tell the organizer that you have another commitment (don't be more specific), then (as others have pointed out) bring a gift to the family when the baby is born, or go in with someone else attending the shower to give a joint gift.
OK, maybe the expectant mom is a close relative, or it's someone at work with the celebration occurring at your workplace. (You didn't say - and it would be helpful to know) In this case it would be good to have a better excuse than an unspecified "other commitment" - or at work, "a meeting" or "a teleconference". It might be a good time to make that long overdue appointment with the dentist or eye doctor or arrange to volunteer in your child's classroom that day. Then you can say truthfully that you really can't attend.
And if it's YOUR baby shower, your only recourse is to have a heart-to-heart with whoever is organizing it, tell her frankly but diplomatically why you don't want a shower, and beg her to call it off. This could endanger relationships, so in this case you're probably better off to attend and be gracious about it. Good luck!
2006-09-07 02:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Samienela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give a reason. It will be judged. So simply say to the person you give the RSVP "I am so sorry but I am not going to be able to attend the baby shower." Who knows? You might be busy shampooing your hair. BUT, if it is a good friends or close family party you need to send a nice gift. All will be forgiven. I think guests worry more about attending. Plus, the mommie to be will be entertained by those who come and won't miss you. ;)
2006-09-07 02:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by DT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Were you formally invited? (And asked for a present?) Is this a close friend or relative? The more you can say, the better I could tailor the response. Since you flat out don't want to go, it'd be nice if you simply said you have something else planned and are sorry you can't attend. You could send a gift, but it's generally assumed you won't if you aren't attending.
2006-09-07 01:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby showers can be soooooooooo boring, I mean BORING! ,but if its someone you really care about and you have other plans, I would get together with someone who is going, have them take your gift/card with them. Make sure you express that you had other plans made already and that you are terribly sorry you can't make it. You may have your own child soon (depending on the situation) you may want them to return the favor to you.
I know that if someone skips out on me, it kinda makes me not want to go to their gatherings (even though i am to nice and end up going anyways). When someone let me know, I felt they cared and it made me feel good.
You don't have to lie just to get out of it. Simply say you have other plans and wish them the best!
Hope this helps you sweetie ;)
the girl below me said the exact same thing I said... "lol".....some people crack me up...
2006-09-07 02:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Violet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just don't go. Tell the mom to be that you're sorry you can't make it. Bring a gift when the baby is born to the hospital.
2006-09-07 01:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the mother (or parents) that you cant make it, and that you will mail or drop off their gift. Be honest, but just dont give too many details. If they ask you why not, then you have to choose whether or not you want to stretch the truth.
2006-09-07 04:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say u have to work see someone in hospital ur feeling sick u have to watch the grass grow take a shower dye ur hair u broke ur foot, didn't u ever try get outa school... and no offence but y don't u want to go?
2006-09-07 01:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go. Send a gift or take one the the mother later.
2006-09-07 01:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by ayork46738 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋