How do you tell someone your not interested without hurting them ?

Answer 1

Be honest and gentle. But be sure that they understand that you mean it, don't leave them with the impression of "maybe someday".

Answer 2

Mostly you can't; however, if you're honest with the person they will respect that. You can say you're not interested in dating, only if you know they won't see you out with some one else. If they have needy tendencies and may become relentless, you need to be firm, direct, and don't say we can still be friends. That will give them hope. You need to do what's right for you and not worry about hurting other people with your honesty. When someone shows interest, they know that there might be rejection. How hurt they are is how well they deal with rejection and life in general. In a way you're helping them gain experience in life with dealing with rejection.
Now if you want the passive non-direct method, avoid seeing or talking to them. Don't answer their emails and never explain or say anything. I have been on the other end of that method. I would have rather that they were up front and told me they were not interested or even that they found somebody else.
I think the direct method is best. Be direct and to the point. If possible, get some space between you and the other person. If not, be pleasant and chatty but not flirty. I find if I keep talking on light subjects that the air clears and that uncomfortable feeling dissipates. Good luck.

Answer 3

Sit down with them and Tell them you like them as a friend only and that you are not interested in dating them. But being a friend with them is okay. I have had to do that alot in High school. I always attracted the nerds....lol!! I didn't mind being freinds with them but dating them was out. I stayed below the jock level and above the nerd level. So the in between guys were my choice. I would have to say the bad boy type was my thing. The Jocks were the to good for you group...lol!! I wish you luck!

Answer 4

You don't. You hurt them more by trying to not hurt them, clean cuts are the fastest to heal. A perfect example of you have to be cruel to be kind.

Answer 5

It seems YOUR actions should be letting that person know,you're not interested. If this person can't get it from that,then you can't be concerned about his/her feelings. Tell them,so they can move on. Y.

Answer 6

you can't

if they're wanting you unless they GET you, they'll be hurt. have the guts to say it to their face tho and don't let their hurt feelings bring you down

You can however do it gently something along the lines of
'I know you want me for your own but i don't share those feelings'
go on to tell them why they're so important to you, if they indeed are.

Answer 7

there uis really no way to but this may work ,it takes time just get separated a lil for like a week and then just tell them that ur sorry but it didnt work out

Answer 8

Little white lies, like your really nice but I have been dting somone on the secret for a long time and we are really in love but thank you so much for your attention and kindness, you will make someone a great companion!

Answer 9

Keep your distance is how i deal with that situation....Sometimes you can show a person better than you can tell them....That's an awful situation to be in...only if you can imagine if the shoe was on the other foot....Good luck!

Answer 10

You cant. If someone likes you and you tell them you dont like them, no matter how you sugarcoat it they're gonna be hurt.