Say for instance your husband or wife had an affair would you fight to keep your relationship together or would you end it? This question is not about anything happening in my life, just a general question.
2006-09-07 00:18:01 · 32 answers · asked by happyflamepepper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on the circumstance. If it was for someone that I had lukewarm feelings for, I would debate if they were worth the effort. A spouse is something completely different, even if my wife had an affair, I think I would fight tooth and nail to keep the marriage alive. I always told myself that if I were to get married, the only way it was going to end is if we tried absolutely everything to save it and nothing worked. I don't think a marriage, or any serious relationship for that matter, should end easily. As far as I am concerned, a serious relationship has to completely fall apart if it is to end.
An affair has levels to it, and the particular level will dictate the damage done to the relationship. For example a one night drunken fling is not as bad as a long running affair. Nevertheless, few relationships are beyond repair, once the genuine love is there.
2006-09-07 00:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Richard C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never fight to "keep" anyone in my life...However if another woman was flirting or making advances towards my husband and it was unwanted by him and he did nothing to start or cause the attraction.. then yes she is done! The fight would be on!( I'd be her worst nightmare!) ***I believe every relationship that makes it to marriage has had 2 chances. A persons first chance is during the dating stage when you earn trust and develop love. Your 2ND chance comes after marriage when it is your chance to grow and keep the trust and love. If they love me then they know there is no other chance then the one they have with me now. There is no Grey area there. If they cheat it is over! If men/women are cheating then it is because they are not happy in their present relationship or their needs are not being met. Why would I fight for someone who basically would break my heart and trust and want me to change from who I am and who I was when they met me? I have far too much self respect and pride for childish fights. My husband & I both know how lucky we are to have each other so we don't take chances on our only chance we have together.
2006-09-07 00:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot would depend on them and what they want i suppose,,if they had an affair because they were to cowardly to say they wanted out of the relationship then i would end it but if i loved them and after a hell of a lot of talking they also wanted to work on the problems i would have to say i would give it a go,,sometimes people do stupid things and until a choice has to be made they may not really know what they want,,fire away,,i can take it lol
2006-09-07 00:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so strange
im going through this exact situation at the moment
as for me yes i would fight
but that is what is scary cuz you dont know how much fighting the other person will do for you as well...
and sometimes even if you fight and fight
there are still chances that the relationship may come to an end
due to forces you have no control over
2006-09-07 00:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I truly loved him, I'd make every effort I could to make it work. But not without taking my own feelings into consideration. Marriage is a huge deal and I don't take it lightly, so yeah I'd fight for it and him until I couldn't anymore. Just as long as I knew he wanted to fight to keep the marriage as well. I won't fight for someone who doesn't want me.
2006-09-07 00:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend really. If I had been with that person for a long time then maybe I would fight to safe the relationship, but in other ways I wouldn't. If they have cheated once, what's to stop them doing it again, and what caused them to do it in the first place?
2006-09-07 00:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Stuart M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
even if i loved the person dearly, an affair is an affair and i would have to end it. if i love someone i would fight for them and accept their bad sides but definetley would not be the same after an affair
2006-09-07 00:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by cleo the pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can try but the damage is done, the heart is broken, the tears are true and the pain is real.
my ex partner (the father of my kids) cheated on me four years in to our relationship. i stayed with him for a further four years. but i could not forget. but i did not fight for him, i put up with him, there is difference. but hey ho never again
happy ending tho...we are great mates now and much happier apart and the kids are happy they have a happy mummy and daddy
2006-09-07 00:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by loopy lass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ! I wouldnt.... No one stuck a gun to his head and told him to cheat. He betrayed your trust.. Fight for what? You have to ask some questions here.. Did the girl know he was with you or married? if not what did he tell her? If she didnt know you cant blame her.. its his fault. If she stays seeing him after that.. then there both wrong.. Both if hes looking whiles hes with you then hes not worth it. not at all.... Find someone who will be true to you.. That kind of man will be worth it..
2006-09-07 01:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by ceemagiclydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end it. An affair is so much more than sex. The lies, the emotional betrayal, the dishonesty would probably be something that I couldnt get past.
2006-09-07 00:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋