we have been married for a year and have a good relasionship but i cant help thinking about other women when we are having sex... does this mean im a lesbian??? i dont think i could ever really go with a girl but i do think about it and it turns me on. am i gay??
2006-09-06 23:37:57 · 34 answers · asked by lp261084 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to have naughty fantasiesNo..this is a normal fantasy...people fantasize kinky things at times like incest or rape but would never dream of acting on it...it just enhances things.
It's normal..don't worry.
2006-09-06 23:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by paula 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between fantasy and reality. Very often if people act on their fantasies and seek to turn them into realities they are disappointed. This is because the mind is a powerful thing, and nothing can ever live up to a fantasy.
I might have...erm, just for an example of course!....say have a fantasy where i run away with a pirate who decides to take me away to Zanzibar to be his pirate concubine...but that doesn't mean it's going to happen...or that i would leave my boyfriend and do it if i had the opportunity.
You probably are not gay since you have a heterosexual relationship and are assumed happy in it. You may not even be bisexual. Plenty of women like the idea of it but would never feel comfortable doing it. Fantasies are quite normal, but you should be able to define them as just that and leave it at that. You could discuss it with your partner if you wanted to, as a bit of fun.
I would advise you against trying it for real unless your relationship is rock solid in terms of trust and communication- it can lead to enormous trouble. Also like I said, nothing can ever live up to a fantasy.
take care
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2006-09-07 00:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you're just bisexual. maybe you could be lesbian. or the third possibility is that you want to try the idea of a threesome. it shows you're an adventurous, daring person who wants to increase the chemistry and passion on your sex life. not a bad thing.
ask your husband, he'd most likely say yes. you knwo how men are about those things.... and if you try it, and you find that at times, your husband seems in the way. it may be that you just want lesbian sex.
2006-09-06 23:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by callieRach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people have fantasies that can help turn them on. There is a big difference between something in your head and doing it for real. It may not quite work out the way you would want then the fantasy would be gone for ever. My advise would be to keep it where it belongs - in your head. LOL
2006-09-06 23:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for people to fantasize about other ppl during sexual intercourse. An ordinary guy may fantasize about other chiks while bonking his missus.
But ur case can't be far from normal u may be attracted to both sexes which will mean you r bisexual if you were gay i think u wud find sh@ggin ur hubby disgusting.
2006-09-06 23:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by TheCruiserBoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a book out there by Eric Jerome Dickey "Between two Lovers". It sounds like the situation you're in.
2006-09-06 23:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not gay!!! u should try another lady they r great especially if its with the man u love other women turn me on the thought of me my man and another lady really gets me going try it u might like it!!!!
talk to ur other haf he would defo go 4 it to it will ad spice
go 4 it girl im here if u want to give it ago
2006-09-06 23:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't give you a correct answer to that question, but i think about women to (although not wen I'm with my hubby, usually wen I'm on my own if u no what i mean!) i think its the excitement of something that u have never done, does this help at all? probably not! lol
2006-09-06 23:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone fantasizes, it doesnt mean you are gay... and whether you tell your husband what you fantisize about is up to you... I would never tell my husband my fantasies of group sex... he'd probably get all insecure, and I definately dont want to know what neighbour / ex / porn star / sister whatever he is thinking about either... :-)
2006-09-07 12:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it and enjoy. As long as you enjoy being intimate with your husband - do what you enjoy doing. If you think it's going to affect your relationship - talk to your husband.
2006-09-06 23:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have done that in the past also with my b/f!
i dont think it makes u a lesbian at all!
maybe u should try a 3sum or summing!
2006-09-06 23:45:35 · answer #11 · answered by princessnicola23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋